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writes:Well, I've had a falling out with a good friend. Long story short, it was complicated. We were close, became attached, drama happened and things fell apart. Much of it was my own fault. He has been keeping his distance for over a month. I tried talking to him directly, and I said quite simply that I want to show him that I can be a good friend again and keep things together.He didn't seem too interested, and later told me that whenever I try to talk to him that he becomes annoyed. He also mentioned that he doubted things will ever be fixed. At the end he stated, it's not that we can't talk anymore, I just won't enjoy it. That sort of confused me, and made me think.I do not want to think that I'm losing him as a friend, but if he feels that way maybe I should truly just move on. I have other friends and everything but this still hurts. He is talking to everyone else and I know that he is doing fine, so is this simply for the best? I don't find myself in this situation often so any advice would be appreciated.Thank you so much.
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reader, EmpireGirl86 +, writes (17 August 2010):
EmpireGirl86 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHello again,
It's been a few months now, and I found out through a mutual friend what ended up happening. I had basically made him start to change, well more so realize what type of a person he was. He felt he couldn't be around me without hurting me more, and it was making him miserable. So in the end, perhaps he was pushing me away to protect me? I admit, towards the end things became very heated and out of control between us. It's confusing though, because I'd felt that I had hurt him more so. He seemed that he still wanted to at least e-mail, but I decided against it since he no longer claimed he could see my as a friend earlier. It would not be right for me to make him obligated to contact me. I will give things time and see what happens from there. Perhaps we will start to talk again down the line, little by little, which is fine with me. No need to push things. I'm thankful for the response I received from my original question. If anyone has any experience with this kind of situation it would be much appreciated, take care!
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reader, Waiting for an angel +, writes (26 May 2010):
Was it something really bad that you did to him? He seems to have a very negative feeling towards you right now. But my ex tells me the same thing one day he hates me & cant stand me but the other he realizes he misses me. Sometimes we speak out of hurt, maybe he really did care for you and whatever happened really got to him because you meant much for him , idk talk to him & apologize. Sry i cant really give you much advice because idk the severity of the situation.
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