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writes:I ended it with someone 8 months ago now. He has moved on with someone else and all is fine in that way, but before this, he used to use his daughter and mine still wanting to see each other as a contact to me, which i put up with for the childrens sakes, and because he owes me money i wanted to keep on civil terms. Anyway he has twice let my daughter down and his own daughter at the last minute, because he wants to stay in the pub where his new girl works. Yet tells my daughter his daughters mum cancelled when her mum told me it was him that cancels saying he has to work. Anyway, I cant have him keep letting my daughter down so i called her mum and we have sorted my daughter to go there tomorrow for tea to play. The girls are 11. She said he doesn't need to be involved and he's not been very nice to his daughter lately anyway, keep letting her down.He has found out (possibly through his daughter) and txt me saying i shouldn't of gone behind his back and to stay away i'm not welcome round there and tomorrow wont be happening. He said my daughter has his number, i dont need to be involved. But am i so wrong to not want him to keep letting these kids down? I can accept that now he's moved on its hassle for him to pick my daughter up, so why is he being so difficult about them seeing each other without him being involved?I have told him i haven't heard any different from his daughters mum (they split 7 yrs ago and she is remarried) so i will still be taking my daughter over there tomorrow. His daughter has had a rotten summer losing her cousin to cancer and her mum said it will be nice for her to have a friend round to play.But now i dont know what i should do really?
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 August 2008): Yes i wont be having anything to do with him. He txt only the other day asking whats happening in my world, i ignored him, he txt again next day sayin obviously you dont wanna talk to me oh well haha, i ignored that, then he asked y the silent treatment. I then said i dont want to get into small talk with him.
The fact is i dont like the bloke end of. Am glad he's met someone because it gets him off my back finally. But it seems, at the expense of our girls.
My ex husband, who's still a good mate 16 yrs after we divorced, just said ignore him he's a twat (he's known him yrs longer than i have) and take J round to her mums.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 August 2008): Thats what me and her mum sorted on the phone the other day? And thats what he is saying he wont have. Although how he can say i'm not welcome there considering its his exes and her husbands house!The girls gelled extremely well the last 2 yrs, and if they hadn't i would even bother trying to find a way for them to still see each other.The courts are sorting the money side of it.Maybe i ought to just leave it now.
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