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writes:I like a colleague at work very much. He thinks of me as a good friend too. Anyway, he slept in my house the whole of last week and all the sleep-overs were platonic. The farthest we got to was a tangled mess of limbs last night. While we're idly chatting, i told him that i've had a crush on him for a while. He didn't make any kind of response to that statement. Today morning, we're talking about how long our current affair may last and he said out of the blue that he will not make a loyal boyfriend. That upset me but i don't want to lose him. Should i still allow him to come over for sleep-overs hoping he would change his mind?
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 January 2007): No, don't let him come for any more sleep-overs. You say you don't want to lose him; unfortunately it doesn't sound as though you "have him" now TO lose. After all, he told you he is not good boyfriend material.
This means that you should take him at his word, and give up any hope of it developing into that kind of relationship.....hard, but he did tell you himself, more or less.
Hopefully, you will be able to get over your crush soon and begin looking around for someone nice who DOES want you for his girlfriend......
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reader, cd206  +, writes (20 January 2007):
 I think what he was trying to say is that sex is fine but everything else isn't. I wouldn't be able to be in a relationship like that personally but everyone is different.
CD
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