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writes:I was given an engagement ring(that he picked out), he asked me to wear it (but didn't propose)... He says he wants to marry me within the next 5 years. We bought a house , cars , etc. together. He talks about marrying me evry other day and how he wants to spend his life with me. We went threw a lot of rough patches in our 5 year relationship with his family trying to break us up. Should I stick in there or should I let him go ? Reply to this Question
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reader, dodge +, writes (19 September 2011):
dodge is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI thank you. There is a lot more to our relationship , I could be here for hours,days,weeks. But hearing your input about what you guys think is awesome.
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reader, RedAthena  +, writes (14 September 2011):
 It sounds like you are just trying to figure out what does this ring really mean to your bf/fiance?
Is it just another piece of jewelry, a reservation for the future, or true intention of marriage?
Pfft, and yes, that ring should come off your finger to do dishes or any harsh cleaning. Chemicals will dull or even ruin the finish.
You are entitled to know what that ring truly means.
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reader, dodge +, writes (14 September 2011):
dodge is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for your input. I am not looking for a romantic proposal... Just something more then just giving me a ring. Things are going great. He is not home for half the month for he works away. He gets upset when I take my ring off to wash dishes,my hair. He says it should never leave my finger for no apparent reason at all.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 September 2011):
Would you rather be engaged, sharing a home and a life, and being secure enough to be financially committed to a man that you- presumably! -love?
Or... um... Married to anyone else just so long as it’s all signed and sealed?
It seems a no brainer. But... the fact that you even have to ask this question at all makes me question whether you truly love this man at all?
Do you care more about being married to man that you love, or care more about the status of being married per se?
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reader, RedAthena +, writes (13 September 2011):
How is the relationship NOW? I think it is natural for a ring to come with a proposal, saying "I am ready to get married now. Let's make plans!".
He is telling you he wants to get married someday, which is not the same thing as being ready to get married. I would tell him that you want to wear that ring, but when he is ready to move forward and ask you to be his wife now. You want it to mean something more than just intent in the future.
If a fancier proposal is really important to you, mention that to him so he can plan ahead.
Sometimes guys do not understand that women dream about the day they will be proposed to. He gave the ring to you a bit too early. Wearing it now might make you feel too anxious waiting for time when it means more.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 September 2011): Set a date. You'll know then whether he's serious about marrying you. Some guys get the ring to buy more time or as some sort of compromise, especially if they feel pressured like you'll leave if they don't make some movement.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 September 2011): I don't understand what the problem is, why would you want to go? Is it because he just gave you a ring but didnt get down on one knee etc...no romance?
Hes commited enough to buy a house car etc,so I dont think he's going anywhere without you.
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