A
female
age
51-59,
anonymous
writes:Hi everyone,I've been seeing my ex for about 3 months now after splitting up in 2008. It was me that ended the relationship as I felt we'd grown apart and wanted different things out of life. We got chatting a good few months ago whilst in the same pub and decided we should meet up for a few drinks to catch up as mates for old times sake. I knew he'd been in a long term relationship after our split and it came to light over texts that followed that he was now single again. So we met up, had a great time, talking, laughing and genuinely getting on well. We decided to meet up again and this time we kissed and there was definitely a connection there.We've met up quite a few times since again always having a great time. We both have strong personalities so conversation is never difficult and I feel we are both relaxed in each other's company...all of which is great.Now to the problem...we've kissed, we've slept together...every time with great connection and chemistry but I'm not sure if the overall attraction side is there on my part if that makes sense. I know he loves me to bits and fancies me but I'm not sure if I can reciprocate. How can I feel like this when we have such a good time together?? Surely I'd have to really fancy him for the chemistry to be there?So confused...even at my age. He's now wanting to tell people we're a couple again but I don't want us to fail again if we had another go but also I'm not sure whether I can commit to a full on relationship or whether I'm looking at being more friends 'with benefits' as they say. That's not fair on him though if he wants more. What should I do? Crack on and see how we get on or take a step back and remain platonic friends?
View related questions:
my ex, text Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
female
reader, anonymous, writes (22 December 2015): Forget about what other people may think. Be sure of what you think want and most importantly need.
You are the only one who knows the answer to these questions.
A
female
reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (21 December 2015):
 I think you need to follow your gut and you need to be honest with him.
From my point of view you enjoy the sex but you look at him as a friend. He see's you as more. You broke up with him for reasons, you need to remember that them reasons are probably still there today. Be honest with him about how you feel, as he will only end up heart broken. Good luck.
...............................
|
