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female
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41-50,
anonymous
writes: ive been in a 'relationship' for about 2 months, its official as in its on facebook so all our family and friends know. we havent slept together yet . its quite pathetic really because weve only met once a month ago his dad had a serious accident so i said id back off and not arrange to meet up so he can help his dad , hes now alot better , but i have a feeling my 'boyfriend' is more of a man child, yes he stepped up to help his dad but alot of things he says are stupid and its like im dealing with a 5 year old i usually have to push for things like sorting a date to meet up and other things. im always the one going out of my way and trying to fit in with him but this weekend id had enough we were supposed to meet friday and he came out with a lame excuse so i pushed and pushed he said he would meet me so i went to meet him and sat in my car waiting he claimed he drove past and didnt see me so went home. i told him im having a break from him (he knows this doesnt mean he can go off and find someone to have fun with and that we are still together ) i do like him so much but if im the one who always makes the effort all the time i dont think its going to work hes a lot of hard work. if i push so much it has made him step up but i shouldnt have to do this hes 35 im hoping this break will make him realise what hes going to lose , maybe im hoping for too much. do i just end it straight away or give him a week to grow a pair
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (20 December 2015):
I agree with Ciar.
If he is a man-child he is not going to "grow up" or "grow a pair" while YOU take a break from him.
This is who he is, break or no break.
I'd say make the break permanent and find someone who WANTS to spend time with you, who will MAKE an effort to BE with you.
Or you can keep wasting your time with this one... choice is yours, of course.
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reader, Ciar +, writes (20 December 2015):
He'll be the same person after the break he was before it. This space between you is just enough to let you rest up so you can continue where you left off.
I don't have high hopes for this working out.
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