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writes:I have been with my boyfriend for the past 4 years and our relationship has a very rocky road. After dating for 2 years he asked me to married him without a ring but I a not a material girl so that did not affect me. We have never lived together since we both are financially strap but we have always been close. Lately, i have return to college full-time, working, and raising my kids. We have totally drifted a part and last weekend we had a really bad fight and have not spoke in a week and today we are suppose to talk about our future. My heart is saying Please dont leave me but my head says he must do what he must do. I recently found out my health is not the best and need to have some major tests done. He only knows a little bit of the information but not the whole picture. Do you think I should tell him or wait until he makes his own decision because I know in my heart I do not want him there under false pretentions. My biggest fear is losing him after all these years and I am scared of what the future holds. Please help me understand what I should do. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 May 2009): you should tell him that you don't want to loos him but that he has to do what he must. tell him that you might be ill and tell him even if it's over you nead a frend.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 May 2009): I too have been in a situation like yours. My husband proposed right out of high school. There was no ring. But he was 18 and i was 16 and we were crazy about each other. He joined the Marines and i went off to college. But, we kept in touch through letters and he came home for weeks at a time. We were tested in every way possible. But, after our first child we were pro's. Never once have i regretted staying with him. You sound as if you need to talk to your hubby about EVERYTHING. Keep no secrets and ask him to do the same. You have put so many years of hard work into your relationship. It would be wrong not to fight to keep it going. Once you have tried everything in your power to mend what has been broken and it doesn't seem to work? You do what you must for you and your kids. You break away from it and do what you must to keep them and yourself happy.hoping I might have shed a little light on the situation, best wishes and good luck with your health,-Jones.
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