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writes:Hi guys, would just like more opinions regarding contact with my ex.If you're unclear of my situation, check my column, but I'll give you the jist:Long distance relationshipLasted 2 YearsWas completely heartbroken when she ended it (she was going to uni, and that would have been too much on our relationship) (I recently accepted this to be true)We have been separated for just over 9 months.She's said before that she would like us to be friends, and I would like that as well, but every time I've tried, my old feelings of love have come back it's hurt me that hers seem to have fizzled out entirely, leaving only feelings of friendship (great :( ).Last time we had a proper conversation I told her I wanted to cut contact for a bit, giving me a chance to get over her, at which point she said that she wanted to give up trying. She then continued a small rant where she talked about how losing me as a friend would add to everything else that had happened in her life recently; her dad died before christmas, her uncle died late last month, and she was struggling to cope with university work. So from there I said I would continue contact in some way.Anyway, 2 weeks after that conversation, I text her, from there we text back and forth and things seemed fine... But that was nearly 3 weeks ago. I've said nothing and I have heard nothing since... And for whatever STUPID, STUPID reason; it's bothering me.I think I know that in not contacting her, I'm doing the right thing. But there is a side for me that still has a lot of warm feelings for her that make me think; perhaps losing contact would be a bad thing (especially after everything we had before).What do you think? Can you offer me some sort of perspective.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 March 2008): WOW ... you have lots of these feelings for this girl and you should tell her that! Maybe she will consider getting back together and making the long distance thing work .
IF not then maybe you should stop contact with her .... it wud probably be best ....
I hope I helped you in some way
I hope everything works out for you and I wish you the very best :)
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