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writes:I am a college freshman and I moved into my dormitory early to attend a special program related to my major before regular classes start. My dorm is a building with both girls and guys even on the same floor (but not the same rooms). At this point I am the only guy moved in early on my floor but there are three very cute and friendly girls. They even helped me move in my room (which means they sat around talking while I did stuff). It was nice company though.They asked me if I wanted to join the “nap” club and said I had good potential as a “nippy nap” partner. Apparently, if approved as a “nippy nap” partner by this circle of girls (11 total), any girl in the group can tell the guy she wants to take a nap with him anytime they feel like it and unless he is on the way to class or work or something you kind of have to do it. And they literally mean naps. Not sex. Cuddling is allowed but no sex. Shirt or no shirt for the guy is ladies preference, but no one gets naked.I was shown a spreadsheet with guys names and they added my name and selfie to it with personal stats. The and apparently the “nippy nap” guys are rated for their “performance” on each nap. Categories rated included smells good, fresh breath, good manners, being an active cuddler, being a good sport when teased sexually, interesting pillow talk, and “EOTE” which stands for “easy on the eyes.” I was given good marks on how I smell (they sniffed me) and looks (average cute but good enough for a napper). I had to take three naps (one with each girl). Active cuddling means staying awake and hugging a lot and just G rated PDA so I did good on that. I did not do well on the pillow talk because I was nervous and babbled about my family and solar energy (totally random). There was a lot of teasing (no details shared here) which was a big turn on, but I behaved myself, so I have a fairly good starter rating and they all three wrote comments under my name just like on yelp and they said nice things (which I will not share here). Apparently, there is no prize, just guys being competitive about something stupid.Has anyone ever heard of anything like this? It seems kind of exploitive maybe but not sure who is exploiting who. The girls seem to be behind it and in charge of it but if feels like it is something a dude would dream up. Anyone see any downsides to this?I think it might end up being very frustrating but also kind of hot. I am a shy guy so I guess it is a way to meet girls. The girls I met told me because I am “fresh meat” I will get invited to a lot of naps and everyone will see how I was rated on each nap. So that is something to look forward to I guess. College is going to be so weird. Any feedback?
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 August 2022): I would proceed with caution. At some point it is possible that some man joins this silly club, but decides that he doesn't want to play by the girls' rules and molests them, goes too far, whatever. This could end up turning ugly.
Do you want to be involved when the shit hits the fan?
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 August 2022): Hope you enjoyed telling us your fantasy. NEXT TIME ring those hot sex chat lines where they pay ugly old ladies to listen to this boring drivel.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 August 2022): It's goofy and makes no sense. Sounds like a prelude to sexual-harassment charges; and a possible huge liability for your university. Not all players stick to the rules; and we are talking about the mingling of both genders here. It's not always visually obvious when a female is aroused, but it is for males. This is an adolescent game of teasing.
I think you need to focus on your studies; and let others play those weird games that flirt with probable legal repercussions. You're a freshman, and if something goes wrong; your entire future could be on the line.
It's not just goofy, it borders on stupid. Such silliness usually ends badly.
It's a bit demeaning to be somebody's sappy little boy toy, don't you think?
It's time you be treated with respect for your manhood. It's a mockery of your masculinity. You're an adult now, not a child or a puppy.
Join clubs that make sense, and will enhance your learning experience.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 August 2022): If you did not have a girlfriend, this sounds like a fun club to join. It could be very hard to maintain self control. I assume if you liked someone and started to date, the nap time with other girls would stop. I cuddle with my GF but she has only fallen asleep accidentally not an on purpose nap and we are always in a public setting never in private. Have fun dude and be a gentleman or they will downgrade you.
Your friend, Calvin (alias)
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reader, mystiquek +, writes (10 August 2022):
 Wow...sounds very weird and they are using you as a source of entertainment. To each his own but letting yourself be used and possibly mocked and made fun of seems prettu desperate.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 August 2022): I think this is one of the dumbest, stupidest things I have ever heard about and I think it is very disquieting to k ow that the people that came up with this brilliant idea now in just very few years could be my kids'teachers or my financial consultants or ,even worse ,my doctors.
I also think that if it had been a bunch of guys founding a nap club where they do not have sex but get to be cuddled and fondled and entertained ,and they also get to rate the girls'performances, everybody would be up in arms shrieking " exploitation " "maschilism" and whatnot.
Said that , if you want to do it, it is lame but rather innocuous,I don't see any big harm coming to you from this. Providing of course that you like (apparently you do ? ) being sexually teased without any possibility of sexual release - I would think this is about as much fun as driving a hammer on your own fingertips several times in a row...but hey to each his own.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (10 August 2022):
 Sounds like some weird controlling "guys" kind of power trip. How far can they push a guy? What can they control?
"if feels like it is something a dude would dream up."
No, it feels VERY much like something girls would dream up. Guys would definitely want to add some sex or nudity. Let's be real!
How do you think this will go if one of the girls wants to actually DATE you? Or you would like to DATE one of the girls? Or just have them take you seriously? Because dude, you are a doormat or circus animal they are training.
I think OVERALL it's kind of harmless. Because you can at any point opt out. You don't HAVE to nap with anyone.
You might meet girls this way, but again... not sure any of them would ever respect you much.
Also, maybe the guys on the list should start to "rate" the girls on their naps and odors....
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