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*lawless29
writes:I met this guy in 1997 we fell in love at first sight. After 10 months of knowing him we was sent to prison for 10 years for armed robbery a crime he committed before I met him. Anyway when he came home I had been married plus I had a child by my husband. Well the woman that was by his side when he got locked up is who he went home to. He decided after three months of being home he wanted to be with me, so he moved down to live with his sister so that we can be together. Anyway I see where he had tattoo two women name on him while he was in prison. I got upset he explained that he only did it to survive in jail, because that is the only way those woman will continue to take care of him. The woman he had left he actually was talking to the entire time he was with me. He went from her to me 13 times. Then, eventually we got married August 30, 2008. He left me two weeks after the marriage and went back to this woman. I also have a child for him that he was not there for when the baby was born December 30, 2007. Now, he pass gotten his own apartment he is 30 years old. He is working for temp services to get by because of his criminal record. He has asked me to move in with him because he wants his family back, but he is on dating service 2 to be exact plus he spends the night with some of them because he says that he is lonely. What I need to know is based upon just the little information that I have provided is this the person for me, or should I start my new year off with someone else. He says that when he left me it was not for another woman but the woman he kept running back to is the woman he claimed that he had left to be with me. PLEASE HELP ME!
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reader, AngelofLove  +, writes (1 January 2009):
 Dear Flawless29,
My heart goes out to you. If you still love your husband, please stay with him. If your husband is no longer with you, do not settle with the other man unless he is prepared to give you the same commitment.
This other guy that came back into your life does not sounds right. You may still love him but the only thing you have in common is a child.
He may give all the excuses he wants for sleeping with other women. All is a lot of bull!
He may have feelings for you, but does not love you enough to be Only with you.
Just keeps you hanging round to give him sense of control to help him feel good. Sorry this is not a good basis for a healthy relationship, you deserve to be happy and loved.
I am not saying that this guy is not a good person, he is most than likely having a tough time adjusting to his new life and right now needs a friend more than lovers. However, due to the way you feel about him, you may not be the right person to help him. For a while anyway, until you feel strong enough to keep friendship platonic.
Good luck and take care
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