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writes:I broke up with my boyfriend. I thought that was the end of it. But he called me late that night and we talked for a bit.Before we ended the conversation he asked several times..Can we move on from this?..Do you need time? If time is what you need I'll give you all the time you want..text or call me. That was a few days ago and we haven't talked since. I do need time. But we still love each other very much..Long story short..I am sure he was rude to my family but he doesn't see things my way. I want him to realize his mistake. He won't apologize because he doesn't mean it. Should I stand firm on this one and wait for him to call again? Giving me time? What does this mean?
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reader, Butterflyfly  +, writes (13 November 2008):
 You seem still angry with what he has done. But if he is willing to give you time don't be too harsh on him. By giving you time he means he will stop 'disturbing ' you until your resentment goes. That is a respectful thing to do . But it looks to me like you feel missunderstood and your resentment won't go unless he understands what he has done and he really means it when he appologises. SO this time off could be a good opportunity for you to get your point across.I think you shuld tell him exaclty what upset you and why you can't get over it and ask him as well to reflect on this. Set up a defined period with no contact (that would pinch him and bring it home to him why you are crossed with him). THis time could be used as an opportunity to reflect for both of you. Defined period of time, no contact, my opinion.
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