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writes:i just found out my first bf i havent dated anyone since because of trust issues he lied. and said we slept together when we didnt. its been over a year since i have spoken to him. im completely over him. a mutual friend jus told me his mother died a horrible death shot by the stepfather. smh. do i send him my condolences or not? Reply to this Question
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reader, Not My Name  +, writes (21 January 2010):
 I guess your choice is ....
Either ACT as is in your own nature and be true to the person you are, ... or REACT to anothers actions and let their own behaviour determine yours. In other words you become the puppet with another pulling your strings.
We all do it at times, let others determine our own choices and behaviour, but something to ponder perhaps?
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reader, Boombadaboom  +, writes (20 January 2010):
 Ok, I know it's hard, believe me I feel the same about an ex of mine. But in the end I think that forgiving her would be the best thing for me to move on myself and then I pictured my whole time with her again and tried to find out if I could actually find some peace in it and lucky enough I did, I'm not sure if that's for anyone but at least I've found an excuse to let it all be and just be at rest.If you can't forgive him, there's no foul, you'll be able to get used to it more likely than to get over it and you won't have to forgive him, just forget him. Maybe sending him a simple message like this could help you do that more than you'll think.Maybe it'll be subconcious but hey like I said, it could never hurt :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 January 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionim jus havin a hard time doing so cause i have not forgave him for the lies. wat to do?
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reader, Not My Name +, writes (20 January 2010):
I think it would be nice under the circumstance to show him that respect even if he did not show that to you.He was probably just show boating with the guys and trying to look the big man when he said it. Some guys do that, and I think it is more about pumping their own ego's than any deliberate ill intent towards the girl. Thoughtless yes, ...but intentionally malicious - probably not.
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reader, Boombadaboom +, writes (20 January 2010):
It couldn't hurt, eh
It's simply the way you'll do it that will decide the outcome. Maybe put a little heart in it. Careful that you don't get wrapped up in his life again huh because if he really was a bad bf it wouldn't be good if he contacted you back :D
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