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writes: My ex and i were with each other for almost 4 years and a year of no contact after the break up..noone cheated..i think we did really love each other..it was petty stuff that i think we can get over from just learning from mistakes etc..i know what i would do differently and told him this. I told him i would rather be with him than some other guy. We went a year with no contact and i was strong but i decided to contact him because i knew i still loved him. We have been talking for months and from knowing him i know he isn't the type where he would jump back quickly into things. He is in his 30's and i am in my mid twenties.I did ask him very direct questions and made direct comments of how maybe he is just trying to be this "nice guy" and doesn't want to say that he just doesn't want me. And he said that isn't exactly right b/c if it was about me then he would be seeing someone already or looking.We have been having nice conversations although its mostly me calling at this point and in terms of us seeing each other he said let him get his head together. So i figured I should give him the benefit of the doubt and maybe eventually he will come around. I am trying to date in the meantime.I was organizing some stuff and i came across 2 pictures of me and him that he never saw..one was at an occassion and it was kinda candid..i think someone called my name and i looked up and he was looking at me in that moment i guess laughing at something i said. The other was a picture of us on a boat that my friend took..the sun is in our eyes so we both look kinda funny but cute...i wanted to send him these pics after maybe speaking on the phone with him and just explain i came across these 2 pictures i dont think you ever saw; just wanted to show you. Kinda plain and simple.Is this a horrible idea? I just figured maybe its something sweet to do and its not like we just started talking after the break up..its been awhile. I am hoping he sees it and misses me but I know of course logically its not going to change anything because I sent a picture..I just thought of it as something nice to show him and would it really hurt? Is this a bad idea? Its only two pictures. But i wanted to get feedback just in case.Thank you all!
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 May 2010): i think that it won't hurt and could help. as long as you haven't been stalking him and you are on friendly casual terms then i would go for it. just say.. WOW look what I ran across and then email them to him.
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