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writes:I met a guy about a month and a half ago online through a dating website. He was on TDY when we started sending emails back and forth. We did this back and forth about a 1 and 1/2 and I didn't hear from him for about 2 weeks after that. I assumed he was either really busy with work or just not interested in me anymore. Well, anyways, Thanksgiving came and went and I hadn't heard from him. Then out of the blue, I received an email from him apologizing that he hadn't sent me earlier than that. He had just been busy with different things and such and said that he would like to meet me in person. He also wanted me to text him when I was available and such. I texted him the next night and he sent me one right back and we sat and texted each other for about a hour. I then had to go to home from work. When I got home, I sent him a text back saying that I was home now and then all of a sudden he was calling me. We sat and talked on the phone about 45 minutes and we made plans to meet last Sunday (about 4 days after). I told him to text me the details when he wanted to get together on Sunday and he said he would. It got to be Saturday afternoon and I hadn't heard from me so I decided just to send him a text asking if we were still going to do something the next day. I didn't get a reply till that night from him. He said that he was really busy and was very sorry and he was definitely still interested in doing something with me the next day. We made definite plans then. The next day, we met. I told him I would text him to let him know I was heading to the resturant that we were meeting at and he texted me before that asking if I was out of work and such. Once we met at the resturant, we were joking around with each other and having no problem talking. He seemed very interested and I wanted to make sure he knew I was. He paid for both our meals. At the end of the date, I wasn't sure what to do. I usually let the guy make the move. As we were walking out to our cars, he said that we should definitely do this again some time. I replied by saying definitely. Then he made the gesture for me to give him a hug. It was a nice big bear hug. Then we said goodnight and went our seperate ways. I was nervous. I'll admit it, but I forgot to thank him for a nice time and realized this when I was driving home. When I was in some bad traffic and wasn't moving, I decided to text him really quick and thank him for a great night. He replied back almost instantly by putting a happy face and saying "It was assumed." I have heard from since and today is the 3rd day after our date. Should I send him a text or wait and see?
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reader, greenfocus +, writes (17 December 2009):
greenfocus is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell, I did the exact opposite of what Lexie said. I went ahead and texted him exactly a week after our first meeting. I figured that if he wasn't interested then he wouldn't reply. He replied back after ten minutes. We sat and texted each other back and forth for about a half of hour. He seemed interested still. That was about 5 days ago and I haven't heard from him since. I give up, he's oblivious not interested.
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reader, Lexie88  +, writes (10 December 2009):
 I think you've made it quite clear that you're interested in more. Sit back and let him come to you. Don't text him...I think you've done enough so far. I almost feel like you made much more effort for this date to go ahead than he did. So now, it's his turn.
If he's interested in seeing you again he will be in touch...if it takes him more than a week to contact you again I'd say go for it but don't hope for much.
When a man is completely interested in you he makes it known. He contacts you and asks you out. He doesn't usually get 'busy' with things...he finds the time.
The only thing you would be doing by texting him first is creating more confusion for yourself. If he wants more, he'll come looking.
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