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age
36-40,
*arusso
writes:Should I send him a birthday message? He broke up with me saying he wasn't in love with me. It hasn't been too long and I don't talk to him. I don't want him to think that I didn't move on but I don't want to be rude either. Maybe a late message?
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 December 2008): A definite No.He was not in love with you.He broke up.Who cares if its his birthday or not.
If you send him a birthday message all you are giving him is a boost to his male ego.His ego will primp and preen in front of other girls saying,"She is my ex.She still remembers my birthday.Poor thing.I wish I had been kinder to her".This was exactly what one of my guy friends said on receiving a text from one of his ex-es.
I couldn't even comprehend his ego.That's how some guys think.Please respect yourself.Do you want to be spoken of like that?
Its very natural to remember an ex's birthday if you have had some good moments together.Don't send a message though.
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reader, PeterPan +, writes (8 December 2008):
 Hmm... having been on the receiving side of this, an ex-GF sending me birthday email messages... I would recommend letting this birthday slide by unrecognized, especially if you're already not communicating at all with each other right now. An out-of-the-blue message (email, text, greeting card, whatever) is going to feel strange to him... it did to me and put me on-edge for any other follow-up messages...
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