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writes:Hi I really need advice with this ASAP to decide if i shoud go see my bf tonight and talk bout this Have already spoken to him bout this earlier but find it easier to speak in person even tho im worried i might cryWe have been together for 18 months although we broke up for three in june when he decided he needed to give it another shot with his ex (the mother of his kids and they had been apart for 3 yrs)We are really happy now back together He is in the army and going overseas next yr for nine months I support him with this as i know his career means a lotToday he got asked if he wanted to go to Canada for 2yrs ather he returns from his tour This would mean big promotion for him Im pleased for him but worried bout our relationshipWhen i spoke to him I asked him how it would effect us and he didnt really know I asked him he could promise it wouldnt break us up and he said he couldnt make that promise but he still wants to carry on seeing me I was so heart broken when we broke up before It didnt work out with his ex as he said he was still so drawn to meWe got back together and everythings great until today when we heard this I dont know what to do I kniw this is the guy I wanna spend the rest of my life with I love him till the ends of the earthI really need some advice please Thanks
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reader, TELLULAH +, writes (1 October 2007):
 Hi,
Is there no way you could go to Canada with him, if it got serious I mean.
You do need to talk, and put your feelings on the table. After all its all very well worrying about his career and future, but what about yours?.
You have needs as well, and you have to let him know that.
If you are meant to be together, whatever happens, you will be.
XXX Take care
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 October 2007): I don't think that a 2 year posting abroad would mean that he never came home. Military personnel not on active service are given 3 main leave periods a year, at Easter, Summer and Christmas. Travel from place of duty to home is paid for. Unless things have changed since I was in.
2 years is a long time, but it will pass fairly quickly once you get past the 12 month mark, and it's all downhill after that. If you're meant to be with each other then you will be eventually.
Phil
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