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41-50,
*azzie1
writes:Why is it that when I break up with my boyfriend of 5years, I start missing him. I know that I could do so much better but why do I linger..he has been abusive in the past towards me not my kids who aren't his, thank god they have never witnessed that. He's trying to change the last incident was over 2years ago where he tried to choke me..he has a very strong character and sometimes I watch what I say in front of him. I sound really stupid right now because of what I just said..and just 2weeks ago he punched his best friend in the face because he felt he was disrespecting him..now, that were done I'm thinking about him more! but, when I'm with him I feel so annoyed by him and all the illegal stuff he does. I'm a smart, and a independent woman with a great job and actually planning to go to school but why do I feel like I need him around. I would have never thought I would allow a man to do half of the stuff he has done from Cheating and Lying and then to top it off he wanted me to have a baby so, that he could have a family which he already has a daughter. He always felt like he had nothing with me. Should I see a doctor?
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 December 2010): Yes I would speak to a therapist. Being in a toxic relationship like that for so long can make you "immune" to the things that he's doing to you. From a third person's point of view, you would never accept how he's been acting towards you. But when you're in the relationship, it can be tricky. Sometimes you don't even know it's happening until it's too late.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 December 2010): A therapist might be a good idea. You also need to cut all contact with him. If you can't do it for yourself, do it for your children. Eventually, the things he's been doing are going to catch up with him, and you don't want to be around when that happens. You can do it!
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