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writes:I recently purchased a camera from my neighbours in our street, whilst playing with the camera i came across some photos which had been left on the camera, most were of normal family stuff but to my delight and surprise there were around a dozen photos of his wife naked with three black men in various positions, shall I say anything?
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 June 2009): Wouldnt you want to know that there were pics of you and 3 black men?
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reader, The Shadow's Tears  +, writes (4 June 2009):
 Hi,what i was saying is what if there marriage is based off a false love? if you was the husband and you found out that someone knew your wife was cheating on you, wouldn't you be mad at them for not telling you? and this whole "the husband took them?" that's just a cheep way to convince you your not in the wrong. i don't think that the husband knows about it, or wouldn't he make super sure that the pics was erased. i mean if he "took the pics" then he would know to check to see if there erased right?i agree that this situation is tough, but if i was being cheated on, and someone had proof! i would want to know. and i wasn't saying use the pictures against them. i was saying go to the wife and ask her about them. get a story on why the pictures was on the camera. but if the wife doesn't want to talk about it respect her wish. but i feel like the husband has a right to know. X: Shadow Tears
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 June 2009): for this woman to be having sex with 3 black men dont you think the husband is involved, he most likely was the one who took them, you may just end up being seriously hurt if you go interfering.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 June 2009): why not just give the memory card back and say this is yours...was left in the camera....that way you get the camera and they get the pictures - you could give it to the wife then it you know nothing about it....
Star.x.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 June 2009): PLEASE DELETE THEM.and delete them without showing them to anyone. (maybe just your wife so that she can have juicy gossip for the next tea party -JUST KIDDING)
Seriously please delete them, yes you may have some fun checking and re checking, but it is such an invasion. i actually don't think hubby took the pics. the missus with 3 men- no way but this one is better left well alone. just be nice and neighbourly.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 June 2009): Do the right thing, the only thing a person in your situation can do. Post it on the web and let the millions of viewers decide whether its cheating or just a kinky relationship
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 June 2009): I bet the husband took the pictures, just delete them .
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 June 2009): I don't think it is your place to tell them you found the pictures...it is none of your business or concern and I wouldn't begin to try and figure out if she was cheating or what....again none of your business. If you had never seen the pictures you wouldn't be asking yourself this question.
Don't be a perv and delete the photos.
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reader, Anastasia  +, writes (1 June 2009):
 No you dont' say anything, you be the bigger responsible gentleman and delete the pics.
If you are ever asked about them....you never saw them.
This isn't any of your business. Hubby forgot to check the camera before he sold it.Unfortunate. Whatever happens in their marriage is their affairs. Now you make it right, delete them and when you see them, behave like a normal neighbourly guy...wave and carry on with your OWN life.
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reader, ArmyMedic +, writes (1 June 2009):
 No you don't say anything at all, and if you are a gentleman you would delete these photos. (But some how I don't think you will!)
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 June 2009): No! You do not want it to blow up in their faces if you confront either of them, or use the photos against his wife. If he is just a neighbour then leave it alone, as it's just their business...Even if the wife is cheating or something. As Samantha said it will come out sooner or later if she is cheating.
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reader, The Shadow's Tears +, writes (1 June 2009):
Hi,i say bring it to her attention, show her the pics and get her side of the story, but be polite about it, after all its not your fault that you found the pics right? he needs to know about it, but i feel that his wife should be the one whom tells him. it's not your place really to. but if the wife refuses to, then he needs to know. think of it this way, what if you was in his shoes, would you want to know about the pics? hope this helps!X: Shadow tears
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 June 2009): Hate to disagree with Samantha, but he has a right to know if she's cheating so he can get tested for STIs and request that she do the same. This is a health issue. Send him the pictures and then delete your copies. It's possible that he knows about and/or set up the tryst (after all, who was behind the camera? Some people get off on that sort of things) but you can't be sure. Look at it this way...you'd want to know if it was your wife and your health at risk!Good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 June 2009): If I was in your situation, I wouldn't say anything. To either her or her partner. If there are problems in the family, they may already be working on them. Or if not, then I'm sure that eventually, things will come into the light in their own time. If this woman is having an affair, then eventually something will happen. She will tell her partner, or she will be found out. But I think it should come from her, not from someone else.
It might be awkward for you when you see this family though, so if possible try and act normal around them. Oh, and get rid of the pictures!
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reader, niki20 +, writes (1 June 2009):
 if you feel like it is the right thing to do i would tell. Obviously these men in the pictures werent him? I would tell b/c would really be able to not think that you didn't do the right thing?
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