A
female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:I was in a long distance relationship a few years ago which lasted two years. Now we're just friends, although we don't keep in touch, we do meet up whenever we happen to be in one another's cities. Recently, his current girlfriend for about a year messaged me on Facebook. She was very polite and asked about "us." She had come across the photo album I gave my ex a few years ago, documenting our "life" together, including trips abroad to see one another and our summer in Europe. She said he had never mentioned having a long distance relationship, and was curious to "when" we dated. I don't mind any of the above but would it be polite to respond? Or should I mind my own business.
View related questions:
facebook, long distance, my ex Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
female
reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (31 December 2012):
 I've actually has this happen to me a few years back. I had gotten out of a nasty engagement with my ex and his new GF contacted me out of sheer curiosity.
Instead of dragging his name through the mud, as he had done me, I took the high road and told her that he seems nice now, but he will show his true colors within time. This was at the end of 2008 and she finds me again on FB, to tell me I was right.
Just be extremely vague when it comes to her questions about him. She'll take very little of what you say into account.
A
female
reader, oldbag  +, writes (31 December 2012):
 Hi
Hmm very suspicious, she has probably already asked him questions and is now asking you so she can verify his answers.
You don't need to answer her at all and if you do it could open a can of worms.I would say ignore her.
...............................
A
female
reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (31 December 2012):
 She's fishing... I personally would direct her back to her boyfriend and say "ask him"
...............................
A
female
reader, person12345 +, writes (31 December 2012):
 If she asked politely I don't see why you wouldn't respond, it's kind of rude not to. HOWEVER, I agree with CMMP that it sounds like she might be fishing for something and your response might politely be that she should ask him about that.
...............................
A
female
reader, anonymous, writes (31 December 2012): It would be polite to respond to a polite request unless you have any reasons to worry. If her ex partner didnt tell her about you, she is probably rather surprised and curious but it is up to you if you want to respond or not. What do your instincts tell you? It is usually best to follow your instincts when faced with a dilemma.
...............................
A
female
reader, R1 +, writes (31 December 2012):
 if she messaged you then it is only fair to respond if you want to. If he is lying to her she has a right to know.
...............................
A
reader, anonymous, writes (31 December 2012): Since she was polite in her message I don't see any reason for you not to respond. Just be matter of fact.since there's nothing to hide as far as you're concerned
...............................
A
male
reader, CMMP +, writes (31 December 2012):
It almost sounds as if she's trying to see if he's lying about something. I wouldn't respond because it's really none of her business.
Don't you think that he has the right to keep that information private?
...............................
|
