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female
age
26-29,
anonymous
writes:Hey, i was wondering if anyone can help as this is kind of very important and disturbing.Ok i was talking with my father one night and he started asking about my boyfriend, as he asked more questions he said he is related to a family with the same last name as my boyfriend and his related to all the people with that last name in the area. My mother said he could be like way way back but it keeps coming to me that my dads aunty isnt that far off and i dont know weither its true or not. He called on my 12th birthday and said he didnt want anything to do with me but we still seem to see each other quite often. throughout the years of knowing my father after he said he didnt want anything to do with me i still saw him and he was quite rude like he would call me names and hit me when he was upset like when my sisters boyfriend asked me out before he asked my sister out, my father yelled at me and his me.Me and my boyfriend love each other very much(i hope) well i know i love him alot i have for a few years, iv know him since i was yr1 and we only got together about a month ago, and i just wondered if he is related by my fathers aunty if its still all that wrong?And should i really believe my father after all his put me through?Help me as soon as posible please Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 July 2009): if it is a common last name, like brown or patel or something then i wouldnt give it another moment's thought. you could try typing your last name into google and it might come up with some family trees or etymology of the word. and even if you are related distantly, so are most people! if you follow the ancestry of most couples they are likely to collide at some point (mostly within the boundaries of race)i would say if you arent sure you are related then you probably arent related closely enough for it to be a problem. besides, it is legal to marry your cousin ;) teeheeand about your dad, it sounds like he is a dodgy character. i cant really judge how honest he is, since i dont know him. but if i were you i would take what he says with a pinch of salt and not worry about it.:)
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reader, StudentOfLife  +, writes (7 July 2009):
 I have some relative that were cousins and god married. I was told that it could cause problem if you ever have kids because of DNA compabilities issue. It did in that situation for one of their kids (they have 3) but that's not necessary the cause.
Since I come from a little town, my first girl friend was a relative from way back, we knew it after the relationship started and just didn't care.
To believe your father or not, if it's true or not, the choice is still yours to take. If you can live with the idea of him being a possible relative, then there's no problem.
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