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*das2hearts
writes:Why in the World do i like older guys?! I mean, not much older, but the age difference could be from 4 to 11 years, which is not that much to me considering my relatives but my friends all think its so weird. They always think I'm hiding something because I'd rather hang out with mature men instead of the sophomores in my grade who would rather talk about boobs instead of something intelligent or loving. I told one girl 2 years ago about me liking older guys and she thought it was weird so I kept it to myself, but now my friends are wondering whats going on because I turned out 4 guys to our homecoming dance already. Should I just date someone to stop all the stupid rumors because theres a lot ranging from me dating 50 year olds for money and me being gay. It's getting really annoying and I'd rather not have all the drama.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 September 2010): I'm the same way and know what you're talking about. Even if people think it weird or gross doesn't mean you have to. Age is a number honey. If you find someone who is older and you feel strong love toward one another then go for it.
But one warning, you might want to be careful with the whole age of consent thing if you do decide to date an older guy.
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reader, gdas2hearts +, writes (16 September 2010):
gdas2hearts is verified as being by the original poster of the questionSORRY anonymous!! for a second i though you said your husband but you said you were dating, haha my bad :) but he is a lucky boyfriend then :D
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reader, gdas2hearts +, writes (16 September 2010):
gdas2hearts is verified as being by the original poster of the questionguys, thank you SO much! all these answers really made me think of who I am and what I want instead of what everyone else wants:
C. Grant- That idea is perfect :) Me and my totally amazing guy friend are going since he hasn't found a guy for him yet
Tennisstar- you definetely get where I'm coming from! The four guys that asked me are jerks, and theyre really mean to my friends, but I asked my gay friend because he hasn't found anyone either so we're just going as friends :)
Odds-My parent's age difference is 7 yrs and my relatives age difference is at most 14 yrs, its part of my culture so none of my family members care, but you're right to think the rest of the people think its weird. Waiting till im 18 is a good idea, but i dont know if i can wait that long xD Thanks though :D
Male Anon. reader- gahh that sucks! I know how you feel. Just because the people my age are immature and I want more adult convos does not mean we're deliquent, we just want to enjoy the people we hang with.
First anon reader- YOUR ANSWER IS MY FAVORITE! I agree with positively everything you said as if it were my own idea :D and it's great to know I'm not alone in how I feel. what you asid gave me a bunch of hope. Your husbands a lucky guy :)
Thank you ALL!
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 September 2010): I know where you're coming from...At your age I had a 21yr old bf. My family was very strict about us seeing each other but it helped that he lived a little far away and was unbelievably sweet. My friends thought it was weird, told me that he would rape me etc etc. Only two of them decided not to judge me and stuck by us. I stayed with him 3yrs and he never took anything from me, even when I offered if you catch my drift :p People are going to worry about you cause a lot of older guys manipulate and hurt younger girls. So get a guy friend and go to this event with him or tell one of the guys who asked you that you wanna go as friends. I took a young guy friend to prom and the rest of the night, I spent with the man I am now dating...yes, he's older ;) As long as you're careful, keep a clear head, and are aware of the "risks"you'll be fine. Remember that you don't give trust/love/sex easily away. Don't ever feel like you have to obey them cuz they're older. The minute they try to pressure, put on the brakes.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 September 2010): When I was a boy your age I was totally bored by girls my own age too. But whenever I tried to run around with older kids my parents and teachers call it delinquency, not maturity.
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reader, Odds +, writes (16 September 2010):
 You are probably attracted the higher status, resources, and experience of older guys. Has something in your life exposed you more to older men, given you a chance to see them in flattering situations?
Assuming you're 15, 4-11 years older goes up to 26. In today's world, that's a huge difference (and crosses the age-of-consent line). A hundred years ago this would have been acceptable, but today, you're just going to have to date some nice geeky guys until you're 18. Once you get past the phase where they're awkward around you, the conversation should be a lot better.
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (16 September 2010):
 You're just maturing faster than the rest of the girls in your grade. You have the need to have stimulating conversation about the recession and not discuss Victoria's Secrets push up bras. Older mature guys give you that satisfying conversation you long for. Don't get into a relationship just to stop rumors, you're wouldn't relationship won't last very long and people will see right through your act. Like C.C. Grant you can find someone in your grade to take to homecoming..or tell one of the 4 that asked you, you changed your mind. Then proceed to seek new friends who won't spread rumors about you.
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reader, C. Grant  +, writes (16 September 2010):
 No, you're wanting company that can provide conversation beyond boobs -- hard to imagine why you might want that. Good for you for wanting something more and better. Yes it's smart to deflect the inane nonsense -- find a geek guy you can relate to in your grade and take him to the dance. He will be grateful and will understand what you're doing.
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