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anonymous
writes:Last year i had a teacher for grade ten, he paid a lot of attention to me during his lectures, and inevitably i became increasingly atrracted to him.He was (to quote my friend)sexy, and irresistable to like. However, he did pay too much attention to me and another girl, and for me the attraction grew into something that i dare not approach unless i knew that i had an extreme amount of strength of character and moral.I know, that if he were to try and seduce one of his students, he would have no resistance whatsoever. I am not in his class anymore, but i am afraid that maybe one day he will find the temptation too much and he may end up making a choice that will damage a young and pretty girl's future, and that he will ruin his own potential of being a very good teacher.Despite everything, i think he is a great teacher, and that if he were to overcome his particular vice (which he does have the freedom to carefully exploit given half the girl population of the school think he is rather sexy) that his ability as a teacher could have far reaching effects.I am afraid that i am partly responsible to do something as i think i might have been the metaphorical door to his realization of his freedom. (i might also be a tad conceited, sorry) this is following the philosphy of pay up for your sins. I feel morally obligued to face this mountain and solve this problem, for my benifit as well as anybody elses.Also, despite everything else, i want to learn more from his as a mentor, because i hold a great amount of respect for what he knows of language arts. I want to be a writer one day, but i can't write essay's worth a dime. I can write creativly, but not essays. and i partly hold my writing career on whether or not i know how to write essays good enough to get into colledge. And all the while, he is also married. and i am also attracted to him, and he, i am sure of, is attracted to me as well. This is not good, because I, as a physical being, want to be with him, but i as a matyr complexed person (someone who likes to help too much) want to keep the girls younger than i (especially the pretty one's with potential) safe from a situation i wouldn't wish on my enemy. And then in my heart, i want him to become a greater teacher than he is, as well as befriend him(a dangerous wish), and i want him to have a happy life (as stoking attraction for his students will never do to his marriage or anything) and then, as a student with a life ahead of me, i want to become a better writer with him as my teacher. What should i do? Should i approach him to dissolve this problem, by asking for essay help and then work from there? Should i ignore the whole thing given i obviously am putting myself in a dangerous situation of becoming illicitly tangled with an older, married, man? What do i do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 December 2007): Honestly, from the way you explain this situation with your teacher it comes to mind that you have a wildly creative imagination...you can not "know" that this teacher is deeply attracted to you, so much so that you would have no problem getting him to pursue you, marriage be damned and so is his career.
Seriously, you sound out of control, rein yourself in, take a cold shower, and move on with your life without him. He is not the only one who can teach you how to write essays. First you need to work on your grammar and your sentence structure, there are plenty of good books out there that will instruct you on how to do this.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 December 2007): You already know the answer as you've answered your own question. It's damgerous and you know it. The ONLY thing you can do is stay away. You seem to already know that it would be wrong to get involved with this married man so don't continue to put yourself in a situation where you're constantly dealing with him. There are other good teachers out there that you can learn from, who arent physically attracted to you or married. Do yourself a favor and do whats right.
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