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writes:I dated this girl in high school. We broke up the summer after her senior year (my junior year). We ended up going to the same college, and screwing around a bit my freshman year (her sophomore year). We occasionally talked here and there after wanting to "take a break" after my first semester (didn't see each other at all...big school), and really didn't hang out again until the end of my sophomore year, when we hooked up one night. After that night, she said she was scared to start dating me again, because she didn't think we'd ever break up, and she wasn't ready for that. I really wasn't either. We didn't talk for about six months.Fast forward to my junior year (her senior year). This weekend, after a few beers, I saw her at a bar and asked her if she wanted to get lunch sometime, and we went today. It went really well, she said she missed hanging out with me, etc., and she said we should hang out over winter break. Neither of us have ever had a "serious" relationship since breaking up almost four years ago, and it's pretty evident that we still somehow have feelings for each other. No matter how long we go without talking to each other, we never seem to skip a beat when we do meet up.What should I do? Should I pursue this?Keep in mind, I'm not looking for a hookup. I've had enough hookups. I'm looking for something real. This may very well be the only girl I've ever loved. I'm only 21, but I can't help thinking the continued presence in each others' lives has to mean something. And she was dropping some hints at lunch today (mentioning how her grandmother said she needed to find a boyfriend, etc.) that she's looking to slow things down a bit.Her family really likes me, too, and liked me being with her. We were together when her father died of cancer, so we've been through a lot. I don't know, this growing up stuff is tough.Thanks for your help and feedback!
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 December 2012): I don't believe in fate either but I do believe in taking a chance. If there isn't bad blood or bad history between you then I don't see why not.
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reader, person12345 +, writes (13 December 2012):
 Yes go for it! This is like one of those movies about fate/love. I don't believe in fate, but if I did, I would say it sounds like you guys are meant for each other. Go for it already!
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