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writes:Hi Cupid, I have a small issue here. I have known this guy for like 6yrs, when we have been really good friends. He is 8yrs younger than me, and he really adores me. I opened up to him and told him I was bi 5yrs ago, and that I had really fallen in love with him. He was a bit uneasy about it, but my gut feeling told me he loved me as well, though he was shy about it at the time. We have hugged each other passionately, so may times, and at one point we became intimate in bed, but just when things began steaming up, he pulled off and began crying and asking God to forgive him. You see he says he is saved and needs God, and cannot stay away form God. Recently, he came back to me and told me he could give us a chance. I wasnt so sure and asked him whether he had overcome his fears or was taking me for a ride. He said he had made up his mind and wanted us to continue. I was skeptical about this but decided to give him a chance and soon fell in love, him calling me honey, sweetheart, darling, baby and calling me every single day just to find out how i was doing. Problem is, I invited him to my place for a sleep over, and when he came, I got carried away and began fondling him. he resisted me and told me that I was sexually lusting for him, and that as a saved christian, he would only have sex once married, and moreover I was just a friend of his heart. this has realay hurt me, I asked him what had changed and he said he had that principle, it would hurt me, but that is what it was. He also said he could not be romantically involved with a fellow man. Deep inside, I feel this is true, he just wanted financial assistance from me to start a business, and since I had given that to him, he no longer needed to pretend that he loved me. I am so confused and so hurt, coz I deeply loved him. Now I have no one to turn to. Pliz advice, should I pursue him still or just let him be?
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 June 2012): I am the original person who asked this question. I broke up with this guy and cant seem to get him out of ma mind. We met at a friend's funeral recently and he just shook ma hand and left. I wanted to see him again, and I dont know if this is right. He meant the world to me, but he doesnt trust me, and feels I wanna take advantage of him. I dont know how to convince him am not.
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reader, Starlights  +, writes (12 June 2012):
 Dont pursue him, let him be.
He has hurt you already and will do again if given the chance.
Goodluck
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