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writes:Ok I am 15, and I am "talking" to a guy who is 20,21 in march. No one in my family knows because my mom and my brother dont like him at all, due to past events. My best friend Liz, who is like a sister to me, supports me fully because she and her boyfriend are 8 years apart. Now heres the deal, the guy is coming home in March, the day of his brithday and we are going to hang out and he wants me to spend the night with him(nothing sexual will happen). He is stationed in Kansas with the military but he will be out in 2 years, and he comes home often so i would get to see him every few months and talk to him often. My question is-should i pursue a relationship with him because he really really makes me happy and he is very sweet? I just want some honest opinions on what to do.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 February 2011): While the guy I once liked was not in the military, I also had a "relationship" going with a guy that my family disapproved of. Pretty much everyone disapproved of it, simply because of the kind of guy he looked like he was. In reality, he was (and is) one of the sweetest, most romantic men I have ever met, and he made me really happy...to a point. For me, the stress of having a private relationship that I could not talk to my family and friends about grew to be too much; I was risking/hurting my relationships with my family and friends over the guy. I eventually chose my family over him, but if you feel that your parents will come to support the relationship then it may be worth trying.
Bear this in mind though. You are 15. He is 21. You are JAILBAIT! If you even CONSIDER having sex with him, just throw that idea out the window. It doesn't matter if you "love" him or anything. If your family catches wind of it, serious law suits could be filed. It is highly unlikely that anything serious will result from this relationship, so don't risk your familial bonds, and his prision-free life, over some petty high school crush.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 February 2011): No, do not get involved with him at all. When you are 20/21, you will think of a guy your age who dates a 15 year old as a total creep. You may feel like you are grown up, but you are not. Be careful and do not let older guys (any guys) take advantage of you. This long distance involvement doesn't even seem like it would be a nice relationship because he would always be away. Find someone your own age who makes you happy and is around for you to spend time with.
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