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*onfused718
writes:I like a guy friend and i'm pretty sure he likes me too. i don't know what to do now. my friend says play hard to get but i'm not sure if i should. i can trust most of u so what do you think? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 February 2008): well i have to tell its not the greatest idea for that guys will tend to go to another girl. In a way it shows the guy is really interested in you. It really all depends on the guy. Me i really dont like it.
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reader, DV1 +, writes (22 May 2007):
 As a guy, I can tell you, don't play hard to get. A lot of girls that I've met feel the need to play games, for no apparent reason at all. The truth about guys is simple - if you play any kind of games, expect that door to be closed. If you like him, start out slow, and see what he's into. You're not investing any emotions that way. If you two hit it off in conversation, suggest going out for coffee or something, and then take it from there. Playing hard to get means that you're hiding yourself from him. The best thing for you to do is open yourself up to him at your own pace, and develop trust. It will work out.
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reader, stina +, writes (22 May 2007):
 Hi Confused,
I've never been the one to like playing mind-games on people. I think it's a terrible thing to do and I can't understand why people do that to one another. Why would you do something like that to someone you like?
I always think about how I'd feel if someone were pretending not to like me. I also think games like that end up creating trust problems in a relationship. It's always better to stay open and honest with people, especially if you would like to be in a relationship with them.
And if they end up only wanting to be with you because you're "hard to get," then what happens when you two get in a relationship? I would think he'd get bored on not playing that game anymore and leave. At least that's what I've seen happen to many of my friends. And many of my friends have also been the one chasing the person who was hard to get - they got bored of the relationship quickly and dumped the guy.
You seem to think that you shouldn't do it anyway. Only do what you feel comfortable with, okay?
Take care.
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