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writes:I broke up with my ex over the phone and I know it was a bad thing to do but I found out he immediately went back out with his ex which is fine by me. The only bad thing is he avoids me and my best friend is friends with all his friends but him( she doesn't like him)and his best friend is having a party at his place , chances are my ex and his gf will of course be there. I really want to go to the party with my best friend, she insist on me coming but I don't want my ex to see me and immediately live the place with his ex like he did before. I'll feel so bad and all his friends might hate me for coming. Should I not go to avoid him or not care at all ?
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 May 2010): I wouldn't go to any event where you assume in advance that he'll be there. If you feel uneasy about it, don't go, especially if his best friend is putting the party on. Even if it was your best friend, or someone more in your corner, throwing the party, it would be more relaxed for you, because you wouldn't feel as intimidated to be around him. If your friends are his friends and they all clique, then I would try to associate more with just your friends than his close buddies, at least for a little while, until you feel more comfortable seeing him. Eventually your emotions will settle more and you'll be able to go anywhere he's at and not let anything bother you. Right now, it would just be too awkward and if there's any drinking at all, one of you might just start arguing with each other and causing more pain for one another. This is probably one of the parties you can most afford to miss, and not regret doing so.
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