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writes:So i have been dating my boyfriend for 2 years now, and once we go to college next year it will be 3. I love him and he loves and cares about me so much. The thing is ive heard how hard it is to keep a relationship with your highschool boyfriend because people change and everything. So i was wondering if anyone has any advice from past esperiences or anything. I was thinking that we could date our Freshman year and then take a break for a year or something to date other people/ expereince college life. and if we are meant to be together, i will go back to him and he will come back to me. Do you think this would work? Any ideas if not? Also, should i try to go to a college closer to his or should i not give up on my plans just to make things easier for us.-thanks.
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reader, superrrshawna +, writes (13 August 2008):
 all i can say is good luck! it is going to be very difficult, but i hope you make it. i can't even tell you how many high school relationships i saw fall apart. one was a couple who had been together and inseparable all through high school! people thought they were going to end up married... instead they ended up on very bad terms with each other.
from my experience, breaks are never really good! if someone suggests a break it means either they are not sure about how they feel about the other person, they want out of a relationship, or they want to try it out with a new person. so usually i see breaks end in break ups. but if the two of you like the idea of one, and go into it purely for the college experience, maybe it will work out better, sure.
and for heavens sakes, DO NOT change your college plans for your boyfriend!!! the above couple were together for 4 years and decided to go to college together... now i am betting they wish they hadn't.
guys come and go but the investment you make in yourself will always be there for you in the long run. don't take the chance of switching colleges unless you are absolutely sure he is worth it!
good luck.
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