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writes:Hello, I am a 22 year old male in the army. I met my fiance' in Iraq. It was strange because I use to and she use to look down those because people always rushed them. We started it by seeing where it would go, we both agreed to this. We deployed back to the states, she's in another post hours away, so it's a long distance relationship... but we see each other 2 to once a month and through time we fell in love. Well, we've been together 1 year and 1 month, and just recently got engaged... by recently I mean labor day. She doesn't know I know but she already bought my wedding ring, I bought hers too already. Anyway, we are deploying again mid next year, this time we'll be in seperate bases. Now, we had been thinking and speaking of marriage before we deployed. An option we saw was marriage in december, and then we could finally move in together after deployment... but then another option is to marry after. On specific dates, she's deploying in march, I'm in June. Another thing is, if we marry in december, I can try putting in paperwork to move to her post. A problem with this is, we'll still be apart during deployment, and I'll be deploying with an infantry unit I don't know at all, unlike the unit I am now, I am their medic and know my guys. I'm up for the idea for marriage in december, and so is she, it was her idea and I'm up for it 100%, but, should I choose to move bases if we do?
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reader, zelgamer +, writes (16 December 2008):
 I am the original poster of the question, I am finally going to be moved to my wife in Colorado! Her deployment is now in May, I'll be deploying with her. :-)
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reader, zelgamer +, writes (6 September 2008):
Hello, I am the original poster, and I wanted to thank you all for your comments. We both decided to marry next month, and will be putting in the packets to be together. After this next deployment, I'm out of the army. keep in your prayers or best wishes that nothing happens to either of us while deployed. THANK YOU AGAIN!
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (3 September 2008):
Yey for medics!
My husband is a British Medic currently in Basra, so I know what you mean about not wanting to move from a unit when you know all your guys now.
But, this is the life of a medic and when you come out of the army and into a hospital you'll need to get used to treating people you do not know.
Move to be together as you'll still spend months apart - that's army life - grab what little time you have together. Your new guys will learn to love you and they are hardly going to shun you. As we keep pointing out to the snobby cavalry regiment that we share with here "You don't hear people shouting DRAGOON on the battlefield."
Plus the fact that the UN mandate runs out later this year and the Iraqi parliament are getting much closer to making a decision so you might get sent off to Afghanistan instead if you don't swap bases.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 September 2008): I am the original poster of the question and wanted to include a detail I left out. I get out of the army 3 months after we get back from deployment, so I'm moving in with her regardless. The thing though just to elaborate, is, if we move together before deployment. I'll be at her base for 3 months and deploy with strangers I don't know if I trust, and I'll still be away from her. She goes to RTC in January, block leave is in Feb. and she deploys march. If I move to there, I simply wont see her until block leave, which we would have spent together anyways. Then I get back and I'll be getting out in 6 months, and that's a possible stop loss (my contract is extending to spend another tour overseas)
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reader, scorpioqt86 +, writes (3 September 2008):
Of course I don't see a reason not to. You two have already proven that you can work around one another, and you didn't mention any problems there. I would say go for it, at least by then it will be AFTER your deployment so that you two can spend time together without anyone "scheduled" to leave. Good Luck, and thank you for fighting for this country.
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