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writes:I just started a new job a few weeks ago and basically from day one, I've felt a mounting attraction to my boss. He's smart, sexy, hilarious, SINGLE, and not that much older than I am, and I can hardly keep myself from thinking about him even when he's not around. I see him 3-4 times a week, and my blood practically boils every time I get the chance to talk to him. Ordinarily, I would never even consider getting involved with a co-worker because I'm fully aware of the possible repercussions, but this is definitely a very special case. Whenever I see him, he compliments my hair or my makeup or dress, and I've caught him looking at me a number of times. We flirt almost constantly, and it's kind of becoming unbearable, because I really get the feeling that he's interested in me too. You know how you can just tell those things?I like him a lot and I could definitely see us having a relationship, but I'm unsure about whether I should make my attraction to him any clearer than it already is. I've managed to keep my cool this long and just flirt with him [harmlessly, I hope], but my crush on him is getting pretty bad... What should I do?
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reader, g247  +, writes (22 February 2008):
I'd second rhythmandblues2 opinion...somewhat. I don't agree that it's true in every single case, there are exceptions, but for the most part what she is saying is true.One thing you have to be very wary of is 'The Office Romance Game'. It can get boring and dreary working in the same place, doing the same job, 8 hours a day, 5 days a week. It's quite natural to try and make things a bit fun for yourself with a flirt or two.That doesn't mean there's attraction or interest there though. Sad as it is to say given your feelings for him, you could simply be a way to pass the day for this guy.Is he like that with just you or a few girls in the office? Sound them out about it. Just drop it into conversation casually, "That guy's very flirty isn't he..." and see how they respond. They could all turn around and have the exact same story as you.Don't make a move for him. If you ask and he says no, it makes work life very hard for the both of you. If he says yes, how do you know he STILL isn't seeing you as a way to pass the time?If he makes a move for you (which he will if you mean THAT much to him), then and ONLY then think about it. Just be very careful when you do so as things could go very wrong.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 February 2008): What should you do? Look for another job....this is going to end badly and your hormones have gone to your head....do you need this job to pay your bills or to further a career? If you do go take a cold shower, excercise or find someone else.....you don't want to be called the office trollop....He is acting very unprofessionally if he is flirting with you and commenting so much on your personal appearance, he is your boss....trust me I have dated a boss and it did not end up happily ever after, I had to quit my job and he was a real jerk I was just to love struck to see it, but if he is in a position of authority and he is already this quickly without knowing you trying to seduce you, he is a sleeze, he has done this before and this is not a special case.....you need to take your blinders off....OK?
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