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female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:Three days ago at a party, someone who I met 4 weeks ago and am attracted to said they would like to get to know me better and would like to take me out sometime. He waited until everyone around me left, approached me, and said this.Usually people I'm attracted to aren't always interested in me back right off the bat, not to mention I'm very shy and have had very few relationships. So naturally I got very excited and find myself thinking about him all the time. Issue is I am having a very difficult time reading his behavior and motives. He's an introvert and so am I. We exchanged numbers but only texted each other once and I am scared to text him again trying to make small talk or invite him somewhere because I don't want to seem like I am needy, annoying, or clingy. Also, I'm used to other people making the first move or initiating contact.But I want to talk to him and hang out so very bad... He's such a fun and smart guy, so cute too! It's actually making me very anxious. I am scared this is not going to go anywhere and that he doesn't feel as strong about me as I do about him and it makes me feel very bad. Every time someone sends me a text I jump on the phone to see if it is him... but it's not.It's making me a nervous wreck. What should I do? Should I try to make conversation even though I don't want to seem annoying? Or should I just let this take it's course and see if it becomes something or sizzles out and learn to get over this very quickly? Or maybe I should just work on trying to be a friend to him so it won't make thing awkward?I hate feeling this anxious. I'm never like this!
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 July 2013): First I think you should decide whether it is a "deal breaker" for you that he doesn't seem like the initiating sort. If you are okay with that then I think you should text him and ask him about hanging out. I'm also an introvert and realize this is anxiety inducing, but you are already anxious and having some clarity one way or the other will make you less anxious in the end. Plus something great could come of it :)
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