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writes: Hi. I like this girl and I know she likes me too, the problem is she is taken.Should I make a move on her and disregard her boyfriend or should I NOT make a move because she has a boyfriend?
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 September 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you to everybody that answered. After talking to a few people and reading the answers on here. I've decided to just remain friends with her, there are other fishes in the sea.
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reader, carlene +, writes (10 September 2012):
Do not make a move on this girl. Shes already in a relationship and it would be disrespectful to her boyfriend if you tried anything with her. How would you feel if you had a girlfriend and some other guy made a move on her? My guess is that youd be furious. If you care about this girl leave her be until she makes her mind up about what she wants. This girl is obviously confused, so hold back and give her time to figure out what she wants.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (10 September 2012):
I agree - do NOT make a move. IF she wants to BE WITH YOU she will leave her BF. It's not like she is chained in his basement...
People hitting on people who are in relationship are disrespectful, don't be like that.
I wouldn't "sit by the phone" either, I would live life, go on a date or two and if you haven't found someone and she leaves her BF, then give it a go.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 September 2012): If she likes you as much as you think she does, then you won't have to make a move, she'll be willing to sacrifice her relationship for you and do all the leg work. You will only have sit back and wait for the knock on your door and she tells you the green light is on.
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reader, k_c100 +, writes (10 September 2012):
If she likes you as much as you think she does then she would have left her boyfriend for you already.
DONT make a move, you cannot be in a relationship with someone who already has a boyfriend, you would be the 3rd person and you would never have her all to yourself.
If you really have to say something to her, then simply tell her that you really like her but understand she has a boyfriend, but if things ever change then she has your number. Leave it at that, and see what she does next. If she feels the same she will leave her boyfriend for you. If she loves her boyfriend then she will stay with him and tell you that she isnt interested. At least that way you will have your answer.
Good luck!
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reader, YouWish +, writes (10 September 2012):
I agree with Ciar. Wait until she's single. If she likes you, she knows how to break up with her boyfriend. If you make a move on her, you're establishing your relationship by trying to get her to cheat on her boyfriend. That pretty much starts your relationship with a foundation of distrust, because you'll wonder if the guy who makes a move on her while she's dating you will be as successful with her.
You're between a rock and a hard place here. Even if you do tell her how you feel in the hopes that she'll break up with her boyfriend and fall into your arms, who knows what baggage can occur with unresolved relationships? What you don't want to see happen is that she returns your interest in lip service only, stays with her boyfriend and flirts with you to hedge her bets. That's not fair to you, and ultimately will erode things between the two of you.
I say pursue someone who is single and don't wait, like Ciar said. If things aren't right between her and her boyfriend,she's a big girl and knows what to do. In the meantime, you should go after someone who is as available for a relationship as you are.
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reader, Ciar +, writes (10 September 2012):
Do NOT make a move until she extricates herself from her current arrangement and allows herself time to regroup. If she wants you that badly she won't waste time. If she does dilly dally, then you know exactly where you stand with her. Don't pursue her or wait for her. If you're still interested by the time she is ready then have at it.
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