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writes:Hi,i have fallen for my assistant. Its just that we are so different. We come from different strata s of society, different upbringing and different religion. We have different tastes. But we get along very well in office. Now i cant stop thinking about her. Should i listen to my heart or my mind??? Reply to this Question
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reader, Intrigued3000  +, writes (14 January 2017):
 “Let yourself be silently drawn by the strange pull of what you really love. It will not lead you astray.” - Rumi
It's best to pursue something now and find out if the relationship will work, rather than live with regret years later and exist in a constant state of "What if...", "If only...".
My heart has been broken many times, but I am at peace because I knew I gave it my all and saw each relationship to the very end. When I finally walked away, I never looked back once.
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (14 January 2017):
 What are your assistant's feelings on this, have you and she dated or are you admiring her from a distance?
Have you considered what life might be like if you two DID fall in love with each other and get married. What would be the cultural ramifications? Would there be repercussions if you marry out of social strata and religion?
The lady in question might be required to give up all for love, her family, her religion, he place in society ... or would you give all those up for her?
I think that before you follow your heart you seriously consider all aspects of your culture and if you speaking out or declarations of love will add to the young lady's life or seriously make it worse.
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reader, Andie's Thoughts  +, writes (14 January 2017):
 Whichever one is saying you're too different, listen to it. Those things aren't always important, but probably are in your culture. Working well as co-workers doesn't mean you're compatible as a couple. I'd let this one go.
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reader, Youcannotbeserious +, writes (14 January 2017):
 The first question is, how does SHE feel about YOU? After all, there would be TWO people in this relationship and she too has a say in whether it would be a good idea to go ahead.
From what you say, you would probably encounter a lot of resistance to your relationship. However, if you were both keen to pursue it, then I am sure you would give each other strength to cope.
So the first step is to get a feeling for whether she sees you in a romantic light or whether she just sees you as a colleague she gets on well with.
Good luck.
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