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*anniBaby
writes:Me and my boyfriend have been together for 2 years now. I've recently turned 18 and he's nearly 20. We live together now and throughout our entire relationship he always told me he prefers not to go clubbing because it's not for him.Then out of the blue he comes home from work telling me that he will be going clubbing soon with his friends, whom are all players etc. (He didn't even want to discuss it he told me HE WAS GOING and he knew i would be like this)I told him that i trust him but i don't feel comfortable with him going clubbing because guys go there to either get laid, drunk and dance with girls.He told me that he wasen't going for any of them reasons he is only going to have fun with his friends.With him working 6 days a week as a waitor i guess he has a lot of stress. But he knows how i feel about him going and it turned into a massive argument and i said to him so your choosing your friends over me.. which is how i feel in a way....So i guess my question is do you feel comfortable letting your boyfriend/girlfriend go clubbing with their friends?
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reader, we-are-nowhere  +, writes (12 July 2009):
 to answer you last question , do i feel comfortable letting my bf go clubbing with his friends ? well it is a yes and a no . a yes cause i do trust him and trust how he feels towards me and know he won't cross any lines or do something that he won't do if i was around , the no part is the little jealousy part and the what if part , what if he gets drunk and .. . but at the end i would never tell him don't go on the contrary he is stressed at work like your bf so i want him to loosen up and have fun . he deserves it , and maybe you may go with him after a while and see how it is and what they do to calm yourself
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 July 2009): give the guy some space.
Do not suffocate him.
That is the WORST thing a girl can do.
Trust me on this....holy shit every woman in my life always tries to hold me back from doing things I want.
My mother, every girlfriend...
Just give the guy some space.
And if doing that ruins your relationship then I am sorry.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 July 2009): I understand how you feel I really do, but you can't stop him going, he's his own person. If he starts to behave like an idiot and starts doing it all the time then that's the time to sit down and talk about a compromise...
Also if you can't beat him, join him! Go out with your mates and have a good time!
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