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writes:I met this guy last year while I was drunk eating pizza after clubbing with my friend (typical party girl scene) now I never took this guy seriously I'd always ignore his texts, or keep conversations small, sometimes he'd ask to hang out but I'd always cancel last minute.he plays a professional sport so he's out of the country a lot and comes back only for about 4 months before he goes back. Now a few months ago me and him hooked up and the very next night he was seen holding hands with another girl. My friends that know him and spend some time with him in the past said that he was completely rude to them and acted like he didn't really know them. I confronted him about it but he blew it off as if he didn't really care. Now a few months later and he reached out to me stating he misses me and that he apologizes. he leaves in a few weeks and I've come to a realization that I really like this guy.Should I just go with the flow and see what happens. He's hurt me a lot of when I found out he was seen with a girl right after me but he apologized and said he didn't think we were that serious. But should I trust him? should I just see what happens? knowing he's leaving in a few weeks? or should I just let this guy go and forget about him? I have mixed feelings and I don't know what to do. It should be noted that a few hrs before we actually hooked up I stood him up and he was super upset but after talking to him he came to see me and we had sex.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (22 July 2017):
 I think he IS looking for sex, EASY sex. And he has been getting that from you.
Look, OP if he is RUDE to people who KNOWS him I think it's a matter of time before he will "forget" he knows you too. Especially when out of the country. He will be pursuing women where he is at.
If he is a professional athlete he has women throwing themselves at him ALL the time.
If you ARE OK with something casual (and I'm not sure you are since you got "hurt" by seeing him with another girl after hooking up with him ONE time.)
Stringing him along (playing HARD to get) is not going to work with this one. Because he has no problem finding a hookup or date. so the whole making plans with him then canceling it's NOT going to make him SO interested in you that he becomes monogamous.
So decide for yourself if you WANT to continue to "hook up" with him (as in casual) or if you are looking for a guy who has more to offer (relationship-wise). If you want to hook up he is your guy, if you want something deeper and more exclusive... I don't think he is the guy for you.
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reader, N91  +, writes (22 July 2017):
 Yeah I don't feel there's a great deal of info but it sounds to me from what you've described that he's just interested in something casual. If he's a professional sports star then he probably gets a lot of female attention and is just looking for someone to hook up with wherever he is at that current. Time.
Who knows though? Maybe he wants something serious? I guess you'll never know unless you ask him.
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reader, Phil052 +, writes (22 July 2017):
 My gut feeling on this one is that he's interested in sex, not a relationship. I could be wrong, it's difficult to judge on fairly limited information, but it depends what you want really, as his lifestyle doesn't really lend itself to a full on relationship.
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