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writes: My Boyfriend is trying to talk me into letting him go into the milatary. I am a person who always needs physical effection and the compfort of always having that special someone here for me. I know I really should let him go becasue this could be his only way of having any type of a good career in life. He won't get his GED or keep a job. I love him very much and breaking it off with him is the last thing I want to do. What would you do in my situation? Should I let him go? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 June 2006): ive been with my bf for over 2years. 3weeks and 4days ago he joined the army, he had complications with his application so it took him 10months to get in. when he decided to join the army i couldnt accept it, i knew i loved him but neither of us was happy so we split up, neither of us wanted to be apart but we felt we had to. after 3months of being apart we got back together, we both still loved eachother and we knew it was the right thing to do. im not gonna lie to you it is soooooooooooooooooooo hard, i cried constantly for the first week, it doesnt get any easier you just learn to deal with it, i dont know where youre from but im in england and i have spoken to him every night but 2 (be prepared for a monster phone bill lol). i guess what im saying is you have to decide what to do, its gonna be hard but if it is meant to be it will be.dont think i helped much but good luck and i hope everything goes well for you and him
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reader, Wendyg  +, writes (23 June 2006):
 Hard as it seems, you gotta let him do this. He will resent you for ever more if you stop him. If this is something that he really wants to do and all thats standing in his way is you, and he stays so as not to upset you then the long term affect could be that you would end up splitting up as he would hold resentment to you for stopping him. Tell him your fears, and see if you cant make this work, but this could be your only shot, pretty much kinds dammed if you dammed if you dont, if you let him go you will miss him but you may still have your relationship, dont let him go and you run the bigger risk of losing him anyway! Its time to act a little selfless in this, tell him how much you love him and that you dont want him to go, but understand its something he wants to do, and you feel that he should pursue his dream, but let him know that you want to continue to make a go of things even if he goes, many people manage this, could be the making of the both of you. Dont think about how it makes you feel, if you love him, think about whats best for him.
Take care x
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