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writes:Hey :) no i aint written on here in ages, but thats because everythings been going fine. well so i thought. I met this really awesome lad through a close mate who i really close to him. we became close from the off. thats now developed into a brother sister relationship. i love him dearly like a brother , just to mkae the situation clear , no. i do not like him as more than that. were always thre for one another and recently theres been alot of ups and downs. well last night there was a bit of a blip between us and when he doesnt talk and blasts the music from the car , thats a sign he's in a mood. and he's basically told me to look after my close mate because hes not gonna be there anymore and that he wants to spend more time with his lads, you see we see him most days, he now wants to stop that because we get 'paranoid' when he's quiet. i understand where he's coming from , i dont want to let go , but i find myself letting him go. is it for his own good ? will i benefit from this ? please help :/ should i let go of someone i love so dearly for their sakes ? Reply to this Question
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reader, andrew loves hali  +, writes (14 March 2009):
 its hard letting someone go when you dont wanna let them go but they wanna go. well thats really whats happening to me but with my gf and the best thing to do is let them go soon they will realize they miss you but it might not happen so prepare yourself for anything
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 March 2009): Whenever anyone asks you to stop seeing them, like this friend of yours has done, then you have no choice but to respect that. Give him his space but leave the 'door ajar' so to speak. Let him know, you are there if he ever wants to hang out again. Plainly, he needs a break from this friendship for a bit.
I could be wrong here, but I am guessing, he is viewing you in a different light. You are just seeing this friendship as a brother/sister thing...but I strongly feel he isn't on the same page here, as you are. Could it be he wants this to turn into a dating relationship?
This could be why he's asking for a break..he wants to get his thoughts and feelings, in order. Now I could be wrong on this, but quite often, this is a very common occurence with cross gender friendships. And usually, the male wants more. Let us know what your thoughts are. and good luck.
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reader, xX__JESSIE__Xx +, writes (14 March 2009):
 Maybe you could try talking to him, and compromise, that you can still be close mates, if you let him do his own thing, don't just let him go if its not what you want, talk to him and tell him how you feel, maybe he will understand, tell him once hes heard oyu out, he can feel free to walk away but just aslong as he hears you out first. good luck x
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