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writes:Hi, I'm white 38 yrs. piercing blue eyes my trade mark.My thing is Latinas. I'm married to one now who is 34.for 8 years we have had ups and downs. She has one girl 15 from previous relation and I have 1 girl 14 from previous wife. (previous wife was white redhead) big mistake-glad she left me-sex stopped from day of marriage on. Was so happy one week after she left me!My daughter visits once a month and my wives daughter lives in Mexico and may visit or we go there once a year on average.Her girl has lived with us off and on but likes it more over there with her dad in Mx.it seems. Every time she lives with us its a struggle/fights between her and the mom.Mom won't let her have so much freedom as dad. Because of the fights we have had over the years my love for my wife has deteriorated. Not only fights but i think maybe indifference but i need to look that word up. Just a bad vibe if you get what I'm sayingAbove is only for insight as to my situation and not really indicative of my question.Just to say we have no kids with each other and are getting along well at the moment.I met a girl who works at a fast food place about a month ago. Latina with 6 kids from 2 dads 3 and 3. We have been out 3 times and now its progressed to the point that we tell and feel love for each other. May or not be important but for the purpose of discussion I need to include. First of all you must understand that My feelings for this lady i met are very strong and no we have not had sex-just kissed but as a man I must tell you that every time I have seen her its hard to ignore that she has one of the most amazing butts that I've ever seen in those jeans.I respect her not giving it up so soon even though I have tried. Its not only sexual mind you. A week ago My wife and me had a discussion about calling off our relationship based on a minor dispute. After a few hours it was obvious she wanted to stay together. since then she has been good as gold and changed her attitude completely. The fuel for me in my mind to get her straight was the other woman (no fear). The thing is thats temporary and i expect the attitude/problems to resurface. Now to me the risks vs. rewards here. My attractive wife with 4000 take home monthly -sex anytime i want- no kids that live with us spends too much money and expects dinners out etc..or other woman 6 kids and 1700 take home monthly that I love for real. and really expects nothing at all. My girlfriend does not know I'm married and this as a workaround if i leave is no problem.(she would totally disown me if she knew) Question mostly is If i decide to leave home what are suggestions to do it nicely without mentioning my new love and for minimal pain for my wife? This could be a huge mistake I'm sure since who knows with the economy how much you may end up depending on a spouse.My job as a truck driver at the company I work seems in jeapardy at the time. Very comfortable and happy with wife for time being but think sometimes happiness could go away quickly and may not have girlfriend i have strong feelings for much longer if i blow it. Also happiness is not all about money either?
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reader, wildrose28 +, writes (7 June 2010):
If you think it is love you have to try right. That's my final conclusion life is messy but if you follow your heart you are heading in the right direction. Assuming the rest of the time you have to be tough and suck it up we all have to do that too. But if you have a chance why not. I haven't read all the faiths or know what they say but who would begrudge you that? As long as you support your kids and try to come clean. I think being honest means a lot. Maybe you shouldn't lie to them that's the issue I have with your post.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 December 2008): I think you should go for it......why bother with the old lady when you have a fresh start with a hot bootie. Money is nothing in the face of love. I'm sure your wife will get over it and find someone else.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 December 2008): Sorry but you sound really shallow. You haven't even told your girlfriend your married? You don't have a choice here, the girlfriend deserves to know what type of man you are. To me, you don;t sound much of a catch.
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