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writes:Ok, here goes! I met a man 8+ years ago (when I was ending a bad marriage of 8 years) who told me his wife was "sick" and not able to be with him. After a while I gave in and we started a relationship, working together at a few places over the next 8+ years and his wife is still his wife. (healthy)Now, I have all but gone down on my knees begging for him to do more than spend time during the week with me (his wife lives in another town, same state) take me out to eat, etc. and yet he never does unless it's for work and he can squeeze it in. Oh, he now has his own company and I work for him in the evening after working another job all day and he rarely pays me even when things are good. He also uses my credit card for his business cause his are maxed, his business is very slow due to the bad economy. Anyhow, I told him I would not spend one more holiday alone and he left me alone as always @ Christmas cause he couldn't get away as always............ Well, to get to the point I have met another man who is very nice, sweet, caring and is closer to my age. (The one I've been with for 8+ years is 25 years older than me) This new guy is so sweet and is ending a bad marriage currently. The issue is the new man wants to be with me and start a life together. What do I do?I still love the 1st guy but am pretty sure he is using me and will never leave his "sick" wife.Now, I have a chance to be with a man who loves me just for me and wants to spend the rest of his life with only me. I'm scared of leaving one relationship that I know how it works for one that will be all new.I know that sounds so stupid but that's the reason I'm asking for some sincere advice and an outside view.Thank you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 February 2009): glad to see it helps getting other points of view, yes we all get misguided by the fog we have around us, I agree with others that any man who can have a bit on the side while he claims his wife is sick and ill just ain't worth the time or effort. he is lie'ing all the time to his wife, lie'ing to you and shows no respect for either one of you. This selfish bloke needs a reality check and with a bit of luck what goes around comes around so maybe in his hour of need he will find out what it is like to treat others with so little respect, he is totally selfish and only out to make himself feel good at your expense and keep you hanging about waiting and paying his bills for him.Doesn't sound like he is a very nice person at all,men who are truely in love and want only the person they are with take time for a little real romance and know that woman like to be spoiled a little now and again and it is always nicer to give than it is to just take take take. Get rid once and for all and enjoy the rest off your life free from a taker and a user. Good luck.
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reader, CRAZTME39 +, writes (23 February 2009):
CRAZTME39 is verified as being by the original poster of the question You all are the best :) Thanks for your help and it's great to have an outside view of what is sometimes not easy to see from the inside!
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 February 2009): Get rid off this selfish twisted horrible pig, he is playing around while his wife is sick, what kind of human being does that, in her times of need he goes else where to make him feel good. If he would do that to an ill wife he would use anybody. GET RID NOW what a scum bag he is
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 February 2009): Leave the married guy try the young flash guy
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