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writes:i love my husband very much and recently i found out he did cheated ..should i stay with him or leave? Reply to this Question
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (26 February 2013):
 Well I'm not so quick to jump on the leave him bandwagon.
How long are you married
how good is the marriage otherwise
has he cheated before
is he sorry about cheating or just getting caught
is he willing to go to therapy and couples counseling
do both of you want to try to save the marriage?
all of these questions need to be answered (by you and your husband) before you two decide what to do.
If he is a serial cheater, then yeah I'd probably leave
if he's not remorseful or he blames you for his cheating... then HELL YEAH I'm LEAVING...
but if he's truly remorseful, if it's one shot deal... if he is willing to go to counseling, take responsibility for his behavior etc... maybe I'd try to work it out...
also finding out from the affair partner tells me SHE wants MORE than he's willing to give her....
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reader, pure +, writes (25 February 2013):
pure is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni knew he was unfaithful for awhile but he just keep deny and i didn't continue to asked him till one early morning a woman called me and told me she was his lover for 6 months and it fit in the time i was asking him before. of course i confronted with him and he said he only seen her a few time but hadn't for awhile now.... it seem more than what he willing to tell me but that not matter with me any more because for that 6 months he was very argumented so i already thinking leaving but couldn't because our daughter love him so much so i just got stick and what should i do now..?
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 February 2013): Leave. No brainer
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reader, Ilha  +, writes (24 February 2013):
Dear OP,
You need to find out:
1. How long has he cheated?
2. Why did he cheat?
3. Is he willing to fight for the marriage?
4. Are you willing to fight for the marriage?
5. If you want the marriage, is he agreeable to go for marriage counselling? Are you willing to?
6. Are you able to forgive him and give him a second chance?
Lastly, only YOU can decide what is best for YOU and YOUR MARRIAGE.
Good luck and may you have the strength and courage to face this time of trial and turbulence in your marriage.
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