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writes:Ive been with my boyfriend for a whole year. I cheated on him twice. He heard from people but I always denied and he believes me. Im a christian and my boyfriend is muslim, my parents keep trying to tell me to leave him because there will be religion complications. I met this christian man who I fell deeply for but I pushed him away since I did not wana cheat on my bf again. What should I do? Stay with my bf and learn how to be faithful or leave him and start brand new with this new guy since my family would love him? Also, my bf doesnt want to get married anytime soon and I want to, I think thats what triggered me to creep around with other guys last year when I was with him...
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reader, bardia  +, writes (2 February 2012):
 And you say you're a Christian..? What happened to do unto others as you would have them do unto you? And who says once you're with someone else that you won't cheat on them as well? Better take a long hard look at how your beliefs line up with your lifestyle. Just a word from one believer to another.
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reader, chocoholicforever +, writes (2 February 2012):
You should confess to your boyfriend that you've been cheating on him, and let HIM decide if your relationship will continue or not. He has the right to know what kind of relationship he's in now.
You need to learn how to work on relationship problems in an honest way, not start heading out the door in secret at the first sign of conflict. otherwise even if you left him and started a new relationship you could end up doing the same thing to your new boyfriend.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (2 February 2012):
 I don't think anyone has to learn to be faithful. They simply have to WANT to be faithful. Honestly, it's not that difficult.
If you are having this much mental struggle, the relationship isn't working. Be honest, break it off, and move on.
Then be honest, if you can't be faithful, don't get into a monogamous relationship. That's just causing hurt to other people.
You don't have to date exclusively, or get married, or do anything you don't CHOOSE to do. Choose to treat people--and boyfriends--as you would hope to be treated. Pretty basic, really.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 February 2012): To be honest, if you have cheated on this guy twice then it shows the commitment you have to him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 February 2012): I think you should focus on your faith more. Apparently you cannot be faithful. You're religious beliefs do not conflict but your morality does, he's faithful while you're a lying Cheater. Spare this bf you're with by leaving him and go sort yourself out. You're not ready for a serious relationship especially marriage. Maybe get ur self a fwb so not to break hearts and lie.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 February 2012): yes leave him and stop cheating. Be with someone who you want to be with and who wants you and what you want.
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