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writes:Me and my girlfriend have been out for a just over a month now and my friends keep saying i should kiss her. one day me and a few of my friends and her and a few of her friends went to the cinema, and after she got off the train on the way home two of my friends started mentioning it and her friend said she had spoken to her about it and said she wanted to take things slow. i was fine with this, but my friend phoned her up and asked about it and started to pester her about it (I've told him to stop and apologized to her for him) and one time she said that she had said ok, but i don't know if she was just saying ok to what he was saying or if she meant she was ok with it. her friend doesn't particularly like me show she might have lied, but i don't want to go for anything if my girlfriend will be uncomfortable with it, and even if she was ok i wouldn't know how to go about it. so how could i find out if she's ok with it, and if she is how would i go about it? Reply to this Question
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reader, Angelicc +, writes (3 August 2010):
 Never kiss a girl because you've been pressured.
If her first kiss she wants it too be special. Do it when your ready, you'll know by the clique moment when you really desire to kiss when her lips are all you think about and cant help but too look at.
It will be better that way if you kiss her becuase you want to. if you kiss her because friends are telling you it'll just be awkward for the both of you.
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reader, Jmtmj  +, writes (3 August 2010):
 If you can get within roughly 15 centimeters from her face when you are looking directly at her and she doesn't flinch away then you can 95% of the time kiss her. If she doesn't want to kiss you then she'll look away, turn to the side, act shy... etc. etc. and if you want to play it safe then do nothing.
However, if you're feeling like a man, try gently touching her neck with your thumb in front of her ear and GENTLY guiding her head to look at your eyes. A little direct eye contact and you'll instantly know whether it's shyness that's holding her back or whether she genuinely isn't ready or interested.
(this shouldn't be a forceful thing, its a gentle one-time play)... if it doesn't work then you either respect and wait for her to be ready or you move on...
At the end of the day the first kiss is always an exciting and seemingly risky thing, but one of you has to take the risk and create the opportunity for this tango to take place... and you are a man yes? Make a move :)
I always found these things to be purely instinctive and based on body language, but if you want an analytical guide, this is the best I can do...
Best of luck :)
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reader, johannabanana  +, writes (3 August 2010):
 Try taking it slow, but hinting at it. This can be accomplished by simply kissing her on the cheek each time you see her. Then on the 3rd time kiss her still on her cheek but just off her mouth on the edge. That way you're close to her lips, but you don't violate a boundary maybe she wants. That should give her a hint and trust me when she wants to kiss you you will know... Just make sure you look at body language and the small signs. Girls are like reading open books. You just have to think about if she is acting like she wants to be closer or if her movements keep you at a distance.
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