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female
age
36-40,
*art
writes:Hi... I'm a single lipstick lesbian and have recently started a new job which I absolutely love. The work is really fun and the people I work with are really lovely... I like one girl especially and I'm finding hard to read if she's gay or not?She is a very private person and it's hard to get her to open up about herself, but when she does, she makes me laugh loads and I can't help but be massively attracted to her.I have suspitions about her sexuality for a few reasons, but I'm not sure if I'm just reading into them wishful thinkingly (I know that's not a word but you knowwhat I mean...) Reason 1: She just seems gay... gorgeous girl but has a masculine quality about her? Reason 2: She definately doesn't have a boyfriend Reason 3: She's into her sport/cars etc Reason 4: She makes little comments about things from time to time which could be read as hints about her sexuality... Reading back they are all terrible reasons and now I'm thinking I'm definately reading into it... but until you meet her you wont know what I mean...? Anyway, I really like her and I'm not sure if I should ask the question and risk the embarressment or keep my mouth shut and risk missing out?Help x
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reader, howcomehoney  +, writes (7 December 2007):
 The way I do it, when I'm trying to see if a girl's a Hetty Betty or not, is by starting a conversation about a crazy ex I had. I mean, I just tell some silly story about how funny it was when my crazy ex did this or that, but I use the "she" pronoun a lot, and laugh, and then say "But I bet everyone has a few stories like that, you must as well" - which is a cue for her to say something about her own past and generally you get a "he" or a "she" in there. Also, it's a good way of coming out to her if you haven't yet. Nice and casual like.
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reader, Samutsen  +, writes (6 December 2007):
 I don't know what lipstick lesbian means but I see no reason why you are not able ask her out for a dinner and invite her to your flat for a cup of coffee, and see whether will actually make a coffee or not. No risk involved and in case of a no (no to the dinner) there is plenty of room to save face.
As we men always do towards straight women.
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