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*lexglen
writes:OK . so Im a 24 year old guy, I recently went on a couple of dates, (first time in over 2 year). They both went realy well. How ever a couple of days before the 3rd date she sent me this"im not sure its a good idea , im not interestd in anything atm, i think your a great guy but im trying not to get attached to anyone just now it wont be fair on you " she is moving to another city for uni (but i regulary go there to see friends) although she doesn't know that. Since then , iv been trying to talk to her and we get some good chat going but im to scared i maby over step again. What im wanting to know. is should i just keep chatting and maby ask her out again once shes settle in uni and that ? Reply to this Question
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (26 June 2015):
 I think she turned you down, in the typical "girl" manner. As "gently" as she could.
I don't think she is as interested as you are, sorry.
I would back off and SEE if SHE reaches out to you or not. My guess is... she won't. She is replying and chatting with you because she was taught to be polite and "nice" to people.
I'd look elsewhere for a GF, she isn't it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 June 2015): I think the young lady was pretty clear explaining that she isn't interested in a relationship at the moment. She is relocating.
She made it quite apparent that she doesn't wish to get attached to anyone. You seem interested in trying to start a romantic-connection. What's the point if she isn't interested?
Don't pretend to want friendship; if you have something else in mind. Deception would reflect badly on your character.
She has politely excused herself; and if she wanted to maintain further contact, she would have said so.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 June 2015): That's tricky I guess, that's sometimes an excuse used to cool things off and she just might not be that into you. It was your first few dates in 2 years, respect her wishes to cool it off and unless you were friends and in frequent contact before dating then I wouldn't carry on messaging or ask her out at a later date. Get to know other people and experience dating again, you'll find someone who wants similar things to you whereas this girl unfortunately doesn't.
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