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writes:There's this guy that I've known for around 2 months now. For around the first few weeks we got along reeeally good and flirted a lot. We have like exactly the same personality. Then for a few weeks after that he started distancing himself and not really making an effort so I just kinda left that. He tried to get back in contact with me soon after that and apologised, saying he had a lot going on in his life then like problems with his ex, who he now really hates and family stuff.So everything's good now, but we don't talk as much any more and he seems different after this drama with his ex. Like he's talking to me about much deeper stuff now, like his insecurities, but I kind of just feel like his agony aunt. He's hinted to me that he wants a girlfriend but hasn't really done much about it. Quite confusing. I feel as though he just wants the attention from me but to be honest, the fact that he doesn't seem interested makes me like him more. And he is an awfully sweet guy and I know he just won't mess a girl around.Should I just wait to see where things go? Or is this just a lost cause?
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reader, Who  +, writes (20 April 2009):
 "Should I just wait to see where things go? Or is this just a lost cause?"
Well, where do you want things to go? If you want thing to go anywhere, I'm guessing you are going to push things, and not just wait and see.
In the old days, if a lady wanted things to go somewhere with a gentlemen, she would give him something to think about. She would tell him things like:
"I dream about you."
"People tell me we would make a great couple."
"If you ever ask me out, I'll say yes."
She would say something to plant the seed of interest in his head, and go back to normal chatting after that, waiting for HIM to agonize about about what to do next.
Hope this helps, best of luck.
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