Should I just stay friends with this guy? Move forward and try to make it work?

A female age 36-40, *upidDupid writes:

he says he loves me i feel like i should trust him....but we like to do totally different things but when it comes to us just being together it just feels right.....but i dont know what to do about this feeling that i have that its just not right.....i feel like ive never been so close to what i actually want, but this feeling is just telling me its just not right its just not right i feel that if no matter if i leave this early or not its going to affect me usually i can just walk away from something and it be a neither or its just like im staying with this one because i dont want it to ruin my life.....idk what to do....ive told this guy leave me alone dont bother me forget how to get a hold of me....he doesnt have enough respect to just walk away. he makes me feel bad like well if thats the decision you want to make then sobeit. and doesnt care if hes not friends with me afterward....and that really hurts my feelings....its like a battle of my self respect because i have told him that i just want to be friends and he doesnt want to. i dont want to lose self respect because of this guy. i feel like its the only decision i have. he made me feel good about decisions that ive made and things that i normally wouldnt tell people because i wouldnt want them to be like oh youre bragging he made me feel good about things that nobody else would and thats why i see him as such a good friend.....but thats like outta the question and thats what makes me stick around. its either gonna make me or break me and thats what i feel makes this a one of a kind relationship if i were to walk away it would make me feel like i just wasted what could have been a really good relationship i see my potential as being a friend if somebody doesnt wanna give me what i need to actually survive then theres no point, im not going to waste my time, it just sucks because i can actually see him doing really well for himself one day and i want to encourage him to try it today, because things would be a lot better for him, but hes not taking my advice, which i know he wants advice, which is why i try to stick around and bang it in his head but idk he feeds off of his mom and i want to try to help out everybody by trying to get him to release off of her and cling onto me for help and then get his own help so i really dont know what to do......i just dont wanna be alone and he gives me somebody to talk to and yea its just crazy. Should I just stay friends with this guy? Move forward and try to make it work? Just say hell with it and start over new with somebody?

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