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writes:I've been seeing my boyfriend for 5 months and we have so much fun together, we're very similar and like all the same things, I think he's great. But the problem is other people do too. His ex girlfriend post pictures of him on facebook, he wears her stuff she bought him and even got a wheel chair for her when she had an operation. They split up 8 years ago and she cheated A lot on him. She's very overweight now and he says he would never go back to her but she's always talking to him. Then there's some other woman who blocked me on facebook, she came and banged on his door in the middle of the night and seems absolutely crazy, she sends him bizarre messages thAt make no sense. Another girl took a picture of herself and tagged him on facebook and he doesn't understand why its annooyed me, I wouldn't tag a man with a girlfriend in any pictures! And then when we're out women talk to him like I'm invisible, saying oh I have a perve over your photos, women stare at him and smile. Its like all this women have no respect that he's with me. I never used to be at all jealous of any man, my boyfriends have always been jealous of the attention I get, which I don't like, it makes me uncomfortable. But he looked through my facebook account which hurt me because I'd never do anything with anybody else. So for the first time I've argued about all these women and he didn't see me yesterday, he said he wanted time alone, don't know where he is and his cars not outside his flat. He won't reply to texts. Do you think I should of just shut up about these women?
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reader, Sageoldguy1465  +, writes (9 March 2013):
 Rather than seek the answers to the questions that you've posed herein.... I'd spend all my time dumping his sorry/indecisive bottom.... and find a REAL "boyfriend"...
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 March 2013): You're directing all your anger about this at the wrong person- he can't help it if these sly c*ws are acting this way. I think you've just got to accept that women act this way around him. I know it's hard, I've had the same problem, but there's nothing you should do about it.
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reader, sarcy24 +, writes (9 March 2013):
 This all depends on how jealous you feel. I myself am a very jealous woman and I would not be able to just ignore all these things. I have been in a similar situation and my husband told me basically to put up with it or shove off. He told me he is friendly to all and that is the way he is and that I have no right to ask him not to speak to people or not to see them. I am afraid that I do not see it like this in any way shape or form.
If you are a jealous type or this guy has brought out a jealous streak in you that you did not know you had then it it is not easy to put up with someone who is friendly to other woman or who lets women do things like that on facebook or whatever. Clearly this guy has gone off for 'space' because he feels you are trying to control him and he doesn't like it. Personally i would not chase after him and would wait until he sees things more clearly and comes back to you. I would leave him alone for now. He needs to see that all these woman are making you feel uncomfortable and slightly insecure and if he wants to keep you he needs to moderate his behaviour. He is only going to realise that if you stick to your guns. If you ring and say that you are sorry and that you can put up with it then you are always always going to have to accept a stream of women hanging on in your relationship. I don't think you were wrong to speak up and I don't feel you should back down. I feel you are only thinking about shutting up because you are frightened you might lose him and yet what you are putting up with to my mind is far worse.
I am still with my husband and putting up with his constant stream of female friends but I dislike him and resent him for them which is no good to anyone.
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