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writes:So I've been seeing this guy since January. We've had many ups and down in our "relationship." Basically, he's been too immature to carry on a full relationship, even though he has told me that he wants a relationship with me whenever he thought he was going to lose me. Yet, never followed through.Anyhow, we haven't talked for the past two weeks or so. He's always playing this game of telling me he'll call and doesn't, or makes plans and doesn't keep them. So this last time, we made plans to spend time together on his birthday and he blew me off as usual (not a surprise). Being that I've pretty much gotten fed up with the foolishness and knowing he isn't going to change (at least when I'm not around) I realized that I needed to move on with my life. I ended up finding a job several hours from where I currently live in a city that I absolutely love. So I'm completely enthusiastic.What I'm getting at is that I finally heard from him today. I told him that I got the job in the city that I wanted and that I'll be moving at the end of this week. So of course NOW he wants to see me before I go. Is this a wise decision? I told him that maybe I would, I'll call him and let him know. But obviously I have feelings for the guy, I've gotten the impression that he doesn't care about me as much as he said he did. So should I just let things be and move on with my life without seeing him one last time? Or one last goodbye? I just don't want to make things harder on myself. I would just like some opinions.
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reader, hlskitten  +, writes (21 August 2008):
 Good luck with the move. It sounds exciting!
Whole new life starting up. Im jealous! hehe
C xxxxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 August 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the replies. Hlskitten, I think you're right. What's the point? It's not going to accomplish anything. As far as the personality thing, I decided to look into it a little more, it doesn't really fit him. But whatever the cause for his wishy washy ways isn't something that I'm willing to put myself through. Personality or not, I don't think any girl would want to put herself thru that sort of relationship. Oh well, life goes on :o)
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reader, hlskitten +, writes (19 August 2008):
I wouldn't say goodbye no! Whats the point? You have the job you wanted, and this guy likes to pull your strings when it suits him, one last chance to get you where he likes having you is only a foolish move on your part away!
Wise up. You have the job, you are going for it, your instincts tell you he's a bad egg, and you are almost free of him.
You know deep down its a bad move meeting up with him for a 'goodbye' baaaaaaaaaaaaaaad move. You've been sensible enough to make all the right moves to get away from this red flag of a bloke that plays too many mind games, dont lose touch of that now when it counts the most hunny, your almost there!
C xxxxx
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reader, StudentOfLife  +, writes (19 August 2008):
 I studied personalities a bit, and your boyfriend (or ex) seems to have a lot of the "Popular Sanguine" personality.
They have a hard time to promise something because they can't see themselves far in the futur. It's like they're saying to themselves "Well I know I'm feeling like it now, but will I feel like it then?". They also tend to forget a lot because of the same reason.
That personality is also the most joyful of them all, often seen as childish by more serious (like Choleric and Melancholy) personalities.
Here's a short text about Popular Sanguine:
The lift of joy in times of trouble.
The touch of innocence in a jaded era.
The word of wit when we're weighted down.
The lift of humor when we're heavyhearted.
The ray of hope to blow away our black clouds.
The enthusiasm and energy to start over and over again.
The creativity and charm to color a drab day.
The simplicity of a child in a complex situation.
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I guess some personalities aren't compatible with each other or maybe you just don't understand him.
But know this:
Life is not about finding the perfect person, it's about loving an imperfect person perfectly.
We tend to quit whenever we find it hard to achieve something. Success in all things is not a destination but a journey.
If he says he loves you, maybe he really does. They say truth comes from a child's mouth don't they?
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