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writes:Okay here it goes. I have been in a relationship for about 2 years now. We live together and sometimes I think we moved 2 fast. I meet this other guy through some friends and we have been talking a lot. I have been having an emotional affair. I don't even like this guy that much i mean he is cool but he's not my type. He is just someone to talk to. We haven't had sex or anything or even hung out alone, but its still not right. I look for a different place to live because i don't want to be in a relationship anymore, but then i see my boyfriend and i don't want to leave him. What do i do?!?!? Should i just leave my boyfriend and be alone.
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (7 May 2010):
Only you can make this choice.You are very young and it's easy to fall into the trap of thinking that first love will be your only love.It's great having a boyfriend, and you probably care deeply for him, but that doesn't mean you are still IN love with him after 2 years.This new guy may just be your brain's way of reminding you how love COULD feel and how it's NOT feeling at home.Break ups are horrible, and it won't be nice, but you can't stay with a guy if you don't love him, just because you like him and he's there.Take a few days away if you can, go and visit friends or family and have a good long think about how you actually feel about your boyfriend, and how it feels to be away from him.Good Luck!! xx
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reader, rainbowmaker +, writes (7 May 2010):
 hey sweetheart. This is a tough one! You have that really annoying thing going on where you want to be with him, then you dont! Ive had this so many times in the past. When he's not with you, you think you need to be on your own but when your together you feel like you should stay?My best advice to you (from experience) Is leave. Simple as. The fact that you are having doubts tells me that your heart just isnt in it. If yu dont feel 100% there then whats the point. You may not be that into this other guy but its a sign that You need to experience other people and other things.Dont see as leaving as "being alone" you dont need a man to make you happy or feel complete. go with your instincts. What does your heart say? Follow it......good luck....:)
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