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writes:i've been married to my husband for 2 years. we've known each other for over 11 years. we have our share of problems almost everyday. we'll for start he cheated on me and it was going on for the 2 years we was separated. we decide to go into a shelter, we was doing that for 3 months in the summer time. all the while he was still cheating on me. i just came out and him if he did and he said "yes".. than he sent out picture of dick to someone and than lied about it. we have been arguing ever since. today, he's was saying i'm the reason why he's treating me this way. i know that's not right. oh, i forgot to mention that we don't live together he lives in one state and i live in another. well, he likes to go out without me, i get very upset because we should be spending time together and we don't or we haven't at all. i asked him does he talk to other females while he's out and he said "yes". i asked does he buy them drinks and he said "yes". what do i do about that? well tomorrow we are suppose to have a talk about all the things that bothering us. what should i do? we have two girls and i'm not happy i'm always upset and so defensive.. please help
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reader, Bubuvn  +, writes (3 October 2009):
I can see your husband did not want this marriage, so he does not care your feeling.
He does not respect you and does love you anymore. Life still continues my friend.
I know you are in pain and you are hurt. You have past and long time with him, so you understand him better than us.
Move on with your life and loves will come to you oneday. Do not worry you can not find somebody. You can.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 October 2009): I would say try talking to him if you have known him for 11 years then you met him when he was young and not ready for a commitment. Maybe now he wants to change but since you are bitching about his faults and his cheating he will not listen to you take the offense approach to things and dig deeper to what his problem his.
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reader, GrimmReality +, writes (3 October 2009):
 You don't live together,
He is seeing other people where he lives
Im sorry but he left this marriage a long time ago.
Time for you to see a lawyer, and get custody of your kids and forget about this jerk.
He is a turd who is throwing this in you race and then blaming you for his cheating?
Flush the turd
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 October 2009): Your husband seems to me that he doesn't want the marriage. It seems to me that not only the distance that is between you but he is in constant sexual contact with women. I just don't seem how the vow of "forsaking all others" is conveniently is left out of the marriage. If you are not happy then it is my honest opinion that you are better off by yourself. I know you have two daughters and for the sake of them you want your marriage to work. Completely understandable. Think of it this way, do you want your daughters to date or marry someone like your husband? That's exactly what type of man they are going to end up with. Children learn example not by words. They see that you are staying that is what is going they are to do. It takes two parties to make a marriage work, if one party is cooperating, then you know exactly what you need to do.
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